strange attraction to my T

Hi, been to see a T about 5 times now, try & help me with ptsd, ended up going out of desperation really, realised couldnt do this is on my own, ive struggled going, not good at all this, not even much good at talking, but i seem to have got this bizarre attraction for my T, normally very independent, feel too dependent on him, in just a matter of weeks, surely thats not right?, feel panic when i dont see him, its hit me like a bombshell, am i imagining it, feel totally stupid, will it just go?, my T must be at least in his mid 60's!...

Absolutely common. Par for the course at some points in therapy. Being hit like a bombshell--ditto.

The attraction means a strong desire for connection--not necessarily just physical. It also means you see good things for your therapy with him. Clicking.

It sounds like you and your T are a good fit
This is something really important to talk about in your therapy so I hope you'll bring it to your session. Everything we experience is to take to therapy and talk about.

It was, and is, so amazing to me that this person, T, could be so accepting of me even when I could hardly speak a word. Her kindness, gentleness, acceptance, warmth, and especially her being non-judgemental made me feel so good!

thanks, its a bit of a relief to hear, its so overpowering, & he's old enough to be my grandad!, i was beginning to think i might have to leave, so relieved xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I have been seeing my T for 3 1/2 years and I have a huge attachment to him. Why? Because he listens to me without invalidating me, he cares about what happens to me, and he is always there for me. It's not uncommon to get so attached to our T's. We tell them the most important things in our life, and we grow to trust them and depend on them. So it's not unsual! I'm glad you have a T that you can connect with!