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Apr 25, 2009, 03:24 PM
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There has been a lot of stress in my life since the end of last year and here is a quick summary :
October 2008 ~ mass removed, possible cancer, benign. Thanksgiving/Christamas ~ family stress/with just the holidays as usual, but with triggers this time and begin to decompensate. Jan/Feb 2008 ~ 24 day psychiatric hospitalization March 2008 ~ not unpacked from hosp yet and have 7 day hosp for very serious pneumonia March 2008 ~ day after I'm discharged from the hospital my father-in-law is diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, hospice in place, given one week to six months. April 2008 ~ father-in-law not doing well, as of Thursday has 24 hour awake hospice nurse in home. I feel like I've been rapidly having more difficulties with depression, focusing, making decisions, fragmenting, ridged thinking to no thinking, staying present, feeling disconnected and on the verge of disorganizing. On Friday, my therapist brought up the idea of hospitalization as is increasingly difficult to find and use my coping skills. However, I am trying to keep it together for my husband as I think his father is going to decline much more rapidly than expected and I want to be there for him. Also, the hospital that I would go to is no longer a preferred provided as of 4/1/09. The copay is 40% and I really can't go anywhere else. I'm just so confused and don't know what I need or what to do. Maybe, I just needed to say that. I'm not even sure if I would meet my insurance's criteria for hospitalization because I'm not suicidal or actively self-injuring. Thanks for listening. |
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Apr 25, 2009, 03:42 PM
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I'm so sorry you are under so much stress. I am trying to implement some coping skills, and I know it is soooo hard.
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Apr 25, 2009, 04:18 PM
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What a complicated situation you've got going on in your life. I think a consideration may be what do you need to do for yourself that will allow you the most to meet the challenges in your life?
What does your husband think? Sounds like you are torn between wanting to be there for him, and at the same time, having that destabilize your own mind. Truth is, if you're unstable you're limited in how much support you can offer your family. Just a consideration. |
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Apr 25, 2009, 04:42 PM
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I'm sorry that your life is so complicated right now. That's enough to make anyone unable to use their coping skills.
 It seems like that always happens, doesn't it? No one gets just one problem in their life, they get bombarded with 10 all at once. When it rains it pours.  I hope everything works out for the best.  
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 " I don't wanna be the girl that has to fill the silence. The quiet scares me 'cause it screams the truth. Please don't tell me that we had that conversation, 'Cause I won't remember, save your breath 'cause what's the use? Aahh, the night is calling, and it whispers to me softly, "Come and play". Aahh, I am falling, and if I let myself go I'm the only one to blame. I'm safe, up high, nothing can touch me, but why do I feel this party's over? No pain, inside, you're like perfection, but how do I feel this good sober?" (From the song "Sober", by Pink)
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#5
Apr 25, 2009, 09:15 PM
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I'm sorry CC. Is it clearer to you, what you need to do, after you posted this?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Apr 25, 2009, 10:20 PM
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(((((CC)))))),
Anyone would be grasping for coping skills having gone through all that you have and are experiencing. Only you can decide the best path for you, but know that my thoughts are with you! Take care. 
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Apr 26, 2009, 07:10 AM
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Thank you for your support, encouragement and advice. My father-in-law passed away this morning quietly in his sleep. My husband and I are numb right now as it is 5 am and we were called at 4 am.
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#8
Apr 26, 2009, 07:49 AM
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I'm so sorry your father-in-law passed away.
Perhaps this time of quietness and simple focuses that follow such an important loss, can also be a time of rest for you.
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#9
Apr 26, 2009, 06:57 PM
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So sorry to hear about your loss - hope things get calmer for you
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts  its how many times you get back up!   (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture  )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Apr 26, 2009, 08:47 PM
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Apr 27, 2009, 06:18 AM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((CC)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I hope you can take some time for you, and find some quiet. I know you want to be there for your H, but remember that you need time and space as well... I am so sorry about your FIL.
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#12
Apr 27, 2009, 01:38 PM
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 Very sorry about your father-in-law.I think what Treehouse said is very important; Last edited by Christina86; May 01, 2009 at 02:45 PM. |
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