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Jun 06, 2009, 01:25 AM
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I have a huge issue about giving back to people. my bf gives back alot...he buys me things treats me like a princess and listens to me. I on the other hand very little to give back since I have a low income and not a lot of emotional support. I lean alot on my bf and anyone who gives me attention. my bf has no problem that I have a low income...he desn't want me to buy him things...I think he likes feeling in control.
I guess I have a problem with giving back to people because I feel they will not appreciate it....I put my heart into a lot of things. when people don't appreciate something I feel hurt...I give my bf less expensie things because I don't have the money...I want to give him things...but he doesn't appreciate them or like them...he will see the effort but has no interest in the gifts most of the time in my relationship...my bf babies me...I rarely baby him...i guess I need a lot of attention and emotional support but I'm not sure why this is....could this be because I didn't get a lot of attention at home...I have a huge lack of trust in people...could this also ahve to do with my childhood experience...I have very few friends because I want people to know the real me and love me for me...I have troube finding those types of people...I like to be babied because I dunno...I feel guilty for not giving alot back to my bf...I don't really know what to give him...
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Jun 06, 2009, 02:35 AM
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I understand that you feel you cannot trust. I feel the same way. Maybe you could be your boyfriend's source of companionship and emotional support. Holding hands, kissing hands, showing that you care is the most important thing you can do, and it takes nothing from you if you believe you do care. I keep hoping that one day I will be able to trust. I do not have the opportunity too often to try. Care for your bf, give a little touching and hugging. We all need it. Try it. God bless. kate1218 |
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Jun 06, 2009, 05:04 PM
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 with Kate. The most precious gift we have to give someone is ourselves. Our time, our concern, our love, our support and encouragement, our truth. Giving all that to your bf is pricless. If your bf is NOT complaining about how you treat him, then try to practice not feeling guilty for what he can do materially for you and what you can't do materially for him. It shows that he knows what's really important in a relationship. You are lucky.
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