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Jul 23, 2009, 01:00 PM
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Hi everybody,
I just want to get your opinion if I should delete her from my facebook or not? She's a friend of my ex-bf. my ex doesn't like her, but using her against of me. Trying to show affection and friendship to her and posting sweet notes on her wall and dancing with her all the time. I told him before, why he doesn't go and date with her and he said he doesn't want her....I told him that he's using her just to get attention and he agreed! Well...I really don't want her to be on my facebook list and I don't see any type of friendship with this girl...she's not my type at all....and I don't think I would see her that often either....my quesiton is why I have to keep her on my facebook? I just don't want by deleting her from my facebook to make myself look jealous about her relationship with my ex.... It's really funny their friendship.... She used to be so noisy when I was dating my ex...and she was getting to my nerve badly with her cheesy advices....I kept telling her that I dont' need her advices.... When she added me to her facebook, I didn't want to add her, I should have ignored her....but I didn't....now I really want to get rid of her....I don't see friendship with her at all.... what do you think? Should I remove her form my facebook? thanks Marjan |
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Jul 23, 2009, 01:19 PM
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Hi Marjan~
Absolutely. Remove her, and anyone else who YOU don't want on YOUR book. This is your space, your choices, and YOUR control. And, to be bluntly honest.....To hell with what she, or your ex, or anyone, for that matter, may think. You know the REAL reason why you have removed her. Let em both wallow in their own lil illusions of their realities, as you merrily progress along your way. YOU are the better for this, and that is how it's supposed to be.....about YOU...and screw the rest. Be proud of yourself that you have the strength, courage and wisdom to progress forward...and, perhaps a little bit of satisfaction knowing that you have left them wondering what your actions really mean, (whether or not they want to believe it is in their favor is besides the point). The point is that you took control and removed yourself from the drama they were creating for you. Try to look at it this way, if they think or say anything about you as a result of you removing them the access to your life, then that can only mean that they are jealous that they don't have the control over their own reality as you have over yours.....And the bonus is..that you are no longer a part of it, so you don't need to even concern yourself with what they think or say.....YAY YOU!!!!  I'm sorry this is still haunting you...but soon, those ghosts will all be put to a final rest.... Take care.....  Shangrala 
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#3
Jul 23, 2009, 01:56 PM
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not only delete her, on fb you can block her name. If you do that, neither one of you can see the other person's name listed when doing a search...no temptation!
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Jul 23, 2009, 02:26 PM
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I agree, I suggest removing her from YOUR book
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Jul 23, 2009, 02:47 PM
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Remove her from your Facebook list and move on!
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Jul 23, 2009, 03:14 PM
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Thanks everybody....I blocked her...such a great feelings
There are couple of more people that I want to block including him, but little by little I will get there....so far, two has gone.... I can't understand myself, why I give so much value to people that are not important in my life at all.... |
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Jul 23, 2009, 03:39 PM
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great....I got brave and blocked one more girl who is related to him....I feel so great....but I have to block him as a source of my problem...I'm sure I will do that very soon.... I value every individul that's why I feel bad thinking that I don't really like them....I don't want to be that type of person, but I can't be friends with everybody....I can't get connected with them....I tried when I was dating with Aaron, and I didn't really like it....I didn't find anything common to talk to them....I don't say they are bad people, they are nice with good heart, but I'm not into them.... In term of Aaron, I have to block him too as I don't want to get hurt if I see him getting to another relationship or pictures....Already, I see everyday, he's adding a new girl to his facebook....OMG...he added the whole club to his facebook and honesty, I don't want my pictures to be at his facebook....seriously, he's adding like half of LA to his facebook and I don't want to be there! I might ask him to remove my photo from his facebook.... I'm just afraid that I'm creating hatrate inside myself annd I don't like to be jealous and angry person! Not sure if my feelings are valid.... thanks again Marjan |
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#8
Jul 23, 2009, 03:42 PM
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Facebook Sucks
 PC ROCKS   But I think you made the right decision Marjan
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Jul 23, 2009, 05:02 PM
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You are so confused. "I'm just afraid that I'm creating hatrate inside myself annd I don't like to be jealous and angry person!" Please know that you are NOT creating hatred inside yourself. You are far too kind and compassionate of a person to harbor hate. I am confident that once Aaron and any of the others are removed and their negative influencial remindings have been gone, you will no longer need to even question yourself if you are the jealous or angry person. "Not sure if my feelings are valid...." Your feelings are VERY valid and will ALWAYS be AS important or even take presedence over all others. Try not to ever think that your feelings are second to none. "I value every individul" With that statement clarifying who you ARE as a person, that alone dictates the very fact that your feelings are valid, (which is why I said that you sound so confused). "I feel bad thinking that I don't really like them....I don't want to be that type of person" You are FAR from anything even close to that type of a person. "can't be friends with everybody" True. BUT, you CAN be friends to who is most important...YOURSELF! And from the sounds of it, you ARE! "they are nice with good heart, but I'm not into them" Absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. That does not mean that makes you a bad person. It ONLY means you know what you want for yourself AND you strive for that....(something that many people have yet to learn how to do for themselves). "I might ask him to remove my photo from his facebook" THE best idea yet...Aside from dumping his hurtful hiney!! I commend your strength and resilience, and your love for yourself. You are a beautiful person, Marjan. Keep your faith and true to yourself and you will see that good things do come back to you. With love, and take care.. Shangrala
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Jul 23, 2009, 08:35 PM
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I feel so light by blocking those three girls and still I have to work on him and his best girlfriend too....I think by blocking them as well, I will get better peace of mind....I hate my obsession of looking into his status and there is nothing really into his life...He's not with anybody and he doesn't do anything important rather than just dancing every night adding up these girls to his facebook!!!! Well...I think everyday, I get more convinced that he's not right for me...and I was lucky that he moved out from my life by himself.... I'll let you know when I blocked him and the other girl.... and thanks again for taking your time and replying back to my thread....you are so helpful....I'm stop talking about these issues with my friends and family....I don't want them to know that....now, I have my friends at PC to help me.... take care Marjan |
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#11
Jul 23, 2009, 09:38 PM
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Marjan you dont even have to ask him to remove the photos of you, you can report the photos to facebook and they will remove them for you without him even knowing who deleted them
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Jul 23, 2009, 09:49 PM
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Wow! I had no idea that can be done.....(though, I'm not a member to facebook, either...lol). That sounds ideal for Marjan to do. If you know how, Marjan, that sounds like wonderful advice....Thanks Rachie. Very helpful!! Shangrala
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Jul 23, 2009, 10:54 PM
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Jul 24, 2009, 12:57 AM
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Do you know if anybody has done it before? I know one of my friends had his facebook account suspended, and they didn't say anything....just right after he posted photos! |
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Jul 24, 2009, 01:07 AM
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I hide him but still if he posts any photos, I can see on the highlights....is there anyway to hide that one too? |
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Jul 24, 2009, 01:15 AM
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Im not sure about the highlights thing but with the photos you will have to go to his profile and go thru his pictures, find ones with you in them and underneath the photo on the right side theres a thing that says report photo, click that, i think you can write in why you are reporting the photo so think of something like you dont want pictures of you on his facebook as you didnt give him permission and no longer get along with him so for your own privcay and safety you want them removed. Good luck
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Jul 24, 2009, 01:20 AM
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Jul 24, 2009, 06:05 PM
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OMG....I got so brave and blocked the other girl too...She's his favourit....It feels great...I won't see anything about them anymore!
Now, he's the only one who left there...and of course, I have hidden him.... It's like I rolled back the time.....
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Jul 24, 2009, 06:24 PM
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Nice work marjan!! How good does it feel when u rid your life of people like that
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Jul 24, 2009, 06:43 PM
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Jul 24, 2009, 06:51 PM
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Jul 24, 2009, 08:35 PM
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