Unstable partner

my boyfriend is always changing jobs. He normally resigns or fired by boss. Like today, he just got fired after a big arguement with the boss. He said he done his best and has been very tolerating but the boss is too much.

I think, no matter how bad or what the boss did, we as an employee dont just face him straight away and argue. We tolerate and keep quiet even we hate the boss so much. But, my boyfriend never settle down quiet, he just fired back. I think this is why he keeps resigning every time when he don't like the boss. May be is due to his depression too. He's on depression medicine. Or may be his low self esteem that made him feel like he have to defense himself, otherwise he will be bullied. (He is bullied during his childhood).

I just hope he has a stable job, stable income. Having some job to be done may keep him busy and less depress too. But he just resigns... Sometimes i dont know how/should i support him? anyone can give me some support? weak..

Welcome to PC. I would also have a problem with an issue like this. I know that you have got to feel like that if you married him that if something ever happened you can't count on him. If it was me I would tell him that he needs to find something he likes and stick to it. He should already know that in a job not everything goes smooth all the time. I would really think about making a long time commitment with this guy. I would make it a point that he shouldn't take everything so personal at a job. I hope everything works out for you.

Hi 1000....and welcome to PC.

It is always hard to draw the line with those we Love.

But remember that if we never teach a child to make his bed he never will.
Your boyfriend must learn consequences if he is to ever feel motivated to change.

IMHO.

Lenny

Thanks~~ the problem is, now his boss say many bad things about him to many other people in the same field. I guess it ruins his name. And people will start talking about him, since we're living in a small town. How would he ever stand up in such condition? i'm so worry.

You know the boss can get into trouble for talking bad about a employee. There is a law out there that says they can only say rehire or not rehire. Have you talked to him about his work ethics? Honestly I think that you need to stress to him in a non-combative way how you feel about this. If he is having a problems with his meds they might need to be adjusted for his depression. I know that this is hard on you, but you need to put your foot in his butt. Your so stressed and he's probably just sitting there as if nothing is wrong. I am so sorry, just encourage him to keep trying.

Hello 1000, and welcome to PC!

This would be a very frustrating situation. No matter where you work you’re going to run into people you just don’t like or don’t get along with, this is a fact of life. Coping can be very difficult. As Jerrymichele said, as a boss unprofessional behavior is not tolerated. No one is allowed to create a hostile work environment. If your boyfriend has a problem, he should document the problems and contact the HR department. He needs to learn to be proactive rather that reactive, not respond in kind to this type of behavior. Once he does, he becomes the problem.

Another issue that might be in play is the antidepressants. Wellbutrin makes my husband very angry. If this is the case for your boyfriend he should talk to his doctor.

I would have a conversation with him and tell him how you feel. Not in a way that he feels attacked, but lay it out honestly. Do you live together? If so let him know that you feel overwhelmed trying to make ends meet while his work history is so unpredictable. You need to work to live, how does he propose to support himself if he’s unwilling to work?