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Aug 08, 2009, 09:33 PM
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i cant post it all right now. i just have to get it out but im just so struck by it that i cant think straight.
so yesterday i find out my fiance, that i've been with nearly 3 years, has been cheating on me for at least 2 months. we live in nc, he was in ks doing training for the military to go to iraq. he met some girl out there. he hasnt told me anything so far. i havent talked to him yet cause he's in iraq now. he's going to hear it from me next time we talk. first thing, im through with him. its just done. i dont play the girl on the side thing. we were supposed to be married. but no. im done. i believe what he's done is unforgivable. i have the p-words for his email account, all kinds of letters in there. i guess he really cares about this other person. apparently not enough about me to tell me what was going on. this is all i can post right now. just starting to go blank. idk what to do anymore. i loved him. i still love him. but i cant be with someone i dont trust. its over with him.
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Aug 08, 2009, 10:27 PM
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A lot of people aren't strong enough to walk away, knowing they deserve better. So kudos for not letting him walk over you. It's not enough to love a person, love isn't a one person deal.
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 Catherine2, jerrymichele
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Aug 08, 2009, 11:38 PM
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hey hun
this has to be horribly difficult for you  you are so strong to be able to carry it through, thus far i am so sorry you have to be living in this having proof of something so painful as betrayal, is not easy. but you are so amazing to be so strong in this. i just feel really hurt and sad for you and i wish the best for you  i am glad you will be confronting him. save the emails and all communication, between them. it's just a good idea. here if you want to talk xx
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Aug 09, 2009, 12:05 AM
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((((((((((((((((((starglazer)))))))))))))))))))))))  I'm so sorry, this is so devastating for you. 
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Aug 09, 2009, 08:46 AM
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((((((Stargazer))))) What a horrible situation to be in. I think you are right to end the relationship. If he's already cheating before you are married I doubt he would change and be faithful after marriage. I'm so sorry for you.
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Aug 10, 2009, 01:25 PM
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Be strong on this. It is heartbreaking when that happens I know my baby dad got another woman pregnant while we were together. Its awful. I have to say that getting out and finding someone else is the way to go. Was for me anyway. Its too disrespectful and even emotionally abusive to do that to someone. Good luck to you
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