[athomas88]

So my boyfriend and I met last spring through a mutual friend. We hooked back up over the summer over facebook and after months of getting to know each other, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I accepted and up until a month ago everything seemed to going okay, until suddenly he stopped talking to me. When I asked if everything was okay, he said he was just busy but never told with what. He even said that he has lost his cell phone twice in the last month. He emails and talks to all his other friends, but when I'm online he won't talk to me and he never emails me back. What should I do? He's my first boyfriend so I'm at a real loss as to what to do. I don't know what he's thinking because he won't talk to me. Is he avoiding me? Help me please...

[crystalrose]

oh. That sucks how painful that this guy is being so rude to you. It would be good if men explained themselves but some just don't realise they should. I say maybe try to move on and show him what if is missing out on. Write real positive happy messages in your facebook status. Get on with things but also have a cry cos if he was your first boyfriend then its its so painful and horrible and but don't let him know your in pain. Hope this is the right advice. And hugs hope it gets easier.

[Shangrala]

I'm so sorry this is happening, athomas. I know how painful this can be.

It sounds as thought he is possibly avoiding you. What I find odd, though, is the fact that this relationship has been goin on since spring, met, connected, and then suddenly..this. It's hard to say what is going on with him, but it's a good guess that he has moved on and just doesn't have the decency to inform you.
For someone to lose their cell TWICE in one month?....That's unusual. Either that or a complete farse. Sounds more like an excuse to me.

I agree with crystal....leave a happy message on ur facebook. Show that all's good with you and that this has not effected you. Don't provide him the satisfaction (if that's the case), by letting him know that he has hurt you.
Sometimes, the best way to catch one's attention is by making ourselves unavailable or seemingly uninterested.
It's quite possible that if he thinks all is good with you, he just may be curious enought to contact you to see what's up with you....although, curiosity isn't quite what you are seeking out of this. You definately deserve far more than to satisfy one's curiosity, especially after the fact that he hasn't provided you enough respect to at least tell you that he's no longer interested...if that is the case...

I hope this has helped some. Take care. I wish you all the best.

Shangrala

[athomas88]

I almost wish i could talk to him face to face though... unfortunately he's in oklahoma, living with his older sister and her family and i'm in arizona going to school... now what do i do?

[marjan]

Originally Posted by athomas88

I almost wish i could talk to him face to face though... unfortunately he's in oklahoma, living with his older sister and her family and i'm in arizona going to school... now what do i do?

I know it's really hard for you....but just ignore him...
You know, you can't force people to be with you or communicate with you....so leave him alone....and he will get back to you....
Or, if you are really concern, then just pick up the phone and tell him all your concern and tell him you need more communication....if he didn't pick up the phone, leave him a message....and don't contact him ever again till you get respond back from him....

Honesty, I personally wouldn't have contacted him.....screw him and all other guys like him...the guy who doesn't have this much respect for your friendship and relationship is a total waste....sorry....but you can move on and find a local good heart guy.....

I've been dumped like this recently....and I'm still pissed, because I didn't have conclusion....but I think he was just meeting some other girl....that's sad...but what should I do?

take care of yourself and try not to think about him too much
Marjan