Why can't I find someone?

I don't get it. I'm so lonely. I want to date but I don't really have any way of meeting people. I'm tired of being alone.

Ry

You'll find someone Ryan. Someone as amazing as you won't be alone forever. There is a special person waiting out here for you to find her even as we speak. Have faith buddy!

Ya know, it's just that for all my positive planning and what not, this is the one thing I can't think my way out of and I'm not used to that. Wow that sounded concieted.

Ry

Its not conceited at all.....You are juat aware of who you are and what your strengths are......Love is not ever meant to be understood though. It will come when the time is right.

(((((((((((((((Ryan)))))))))))))))) You'll find someone at some time. You're a smart, likeable guy and you're bound to find that special someone. Maybe it will be tomorrow - or in a year. But you'll find her.

Seem that's the part I hate. Waiting for it to be "right" instead of "right now"

Ry

We all hate that part......Ive had far too many years of the "right nows".....lol. Was fun for awhile...but that gets old. I suspect you wont be alone long. Nice guy like you......some woman is bound to see how great you are and snatch you up for herself anyday now!

I sure hope your right bud cause lonliness is the one thing that sets off my cycles that I can't control.

Ry

Ryan,

I guarantee you will find someone. If you ask me, there seem to be more than a few women just on this board who are crushing on you! No doubt you'll find the same is true in person. You just never know. If you're anything like me, though, you might walk around with blinders a bit, and not notice who is crushing on you. My advice to you would be to put yourself out there as much as possible, make the first move, and you'll eventually find someone with whom you have chemistry and mutual caring.

Best of luck to you
Angela

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I just don't even know where to go to meet people anymore. And even if I did, my confidence is blown to hell. And Angela, you're probably right. I do have a tendancy to walk around with blinders on.

Ry

Well Ry you know I think your hot!!!!

I am married though so

Seriously though, I dont think you can just go out and look for love. I think it finds you. When the time is right. It will find you. Your a great guy, so I'm sure it wont be long.

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Ry

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Ry, those could've just as easily have been my words. I have the exact same problem, I'm lonely, I'm tired of it, I want someone too, I don't see it happening and it sets off my cycles too. You'll find somebody Ry, you're such a great guy, how could you not.

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Ryan you may find juat the right person after your move, sweetie. Don't give up, it took me 4 years after an abusive relationship to find Mr Right but it happened
Angie

Just remember this Ry, it ALWAYS happens when and where you least expect it. You may even already know her. Timing is an important role in developing any kind of relationship. I saw your picture, looks are definately not an issue for you Hon.
TgrsPurr.

Hello Ryan -- You have a knack for making friends, as your many friendships here at Psych Central show. I'm sure that you will have a very happy, stable relationship in your life because you are taking the time to work on you.

I think this is a less-than-ideal time for you to be looking for a long-term relationship. You are moving to Texas in a few months. If you get into a relationship with someone you really love and who loves you, it is going to create heartache in a very short time. Second, you haven't even gotten your X out of your life yet. There is a lot of healing to do.

Lastly, you are not yet secure in yourself. You are on your way toward that, but right now, you are looking for someone to fill you up, ease the loneliness, make you happy. In the long run, that never seems to work out for people. We have to find out who we are, what we like and enjoy.

It seems as if now is a good time for you to experiment with finding activities that you might it enjoy. Be it a photography club, a computer hobbyists club, a car club, church activities, musuem membership, etc. If you don't have any interests, perhaps now is a good time to try out different things and get one. It is often through these activities that one meets one's partner. I met my husband by volunteering to do publicity for a film festival, and met my most recent X in AA.

Best wishes for finding that special person who is just right for you.

some texas cowgirl is going to sweep you of your feet, throw you over her shoulder and ride off into the sunset..with you, giggling.......pat

My Dearest Ry Man,

Patience, dear one! You need to focus on YOU right now, and who knows! By the time you make it back home to Texas, the opportunity you are sorely missing right now will present itself, and you will be better prepared, because of taking this time out for YOU.

You need to rattle all the skeletons you can right now, and a relationship will only hinder that.

Heck, we're not that far apart now, when are WE going out j/k

Just relax, get to know you again, and then you can offer MORE to the next lucky woman who walks into your life.

Huge Hugz and MUCH Love,
Jenn

You will find someone... I have the same problem *hugs*

Have you tried online personals? It is much better than going to bars. When my ex of 5 years and I broke up, I thought that I was not going to find anyone else. I had poor self-esteem and only new what I had with him. In order to get myself from going back to the bad, I went online and reviewed the personals. That is where I met my current boyfriend of 3 years. Although there are some problems (as you can see from my posted questions), he is a great person.

If I wouldn't have taken the initiative to respond to personals, I would probably be alone or in a bad relationship. This would be due to a low self-esteem and not thinking I am good enough for any guy.

I guess I'm not looking for true love... Just someone who's ok with a short term relationship. I mean, I'm moving in a few months so why get into something serious? That would just be silly of me. But someone who's open minded would be great. Not like a friend with benefits, but someone that I could actually date and what not. Problem is, how many women (or men for that matter) are looking for that? And I've never been much into the internet thing. I mean, it's not a bad idea, but I just don't think it's for me. I guess I'm stuck

Ry

Ry, you'll find someone. I guess you'll just have to be patient. It'll happen for you. You're too good a guy to be sitting on the sidelines without someone to spend time with you. Think positive sweetie!!! I'm thinking positive for you! Love ya bunches!!!

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Why do you always make me smile even when I'm down? You amaze me how you can offer kind words and support to every one even when you're feeling blue. Love ya so much. BTW, didja get my PM?

Ry

Ry, I'm glad I can make you smile. That's my objective. We've already resolved the PM issue.

People are always complaining that they can't find someone, what with the fast-paced society we live in. If you have hobbies perhaps you could join a club where there would be women (like yoga) and make yourself some friendships. But best be sure it's something you are also interested in lol. Maybe if you make lots of female friends something will click. I would also suggest the personals if you don't have opportunities to meet with women regularly. Or bars, etc.

I can surely tell you patience is a vertrue. Maybe you should try and become more socailable. Dig inside yourself and find all the great qualities of your self and use them on the women your interested in and see how that works you never know you might get lucky.

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