[vacantangel]

Why can't anything in life be simple. Total chaos in my mind, so many mixed emotions crashing against each other. I don't feel up to elaborating, just going through a rough time, wishing all this chaos in my mind would stop. I guess I just need a hug.

i have a suggestion that will help take your mind off yourself. from what you've said about your mother's illness, two months in a facility, she must need a lot of care. my mom sure did when she had a stroke and she didn't spend but a few days in the hospital. you could just throw yourself into making her comfortable and completely forget all of the negative emotions that you're experiencing now. i'm sure your mother would be so grateful to have her daughter caring for her. and take as long as you need, away from the forums, we'll be sending supportive vibes your way.

[wi_fighter]

AG, it's so nice that your mom is well enough for you to take time off from caring for her in order for you to come voice your frustrations. I can't imagine how difficult it must be caring for a stroke victim. My grandpa had two strokes fairly close together and my grandma barely had time to breathe, let alone take time for herself.

[nothemama8]

It's so nice not having to focus on relationships since your Mom is home and what better way to cement your family relationship with consentrating on her, remeber you only have one Mother boyfriends come and go like the wind
Enjoy your Mom before it's to late, wish mine was still here
Angie

[vacantangel]

Thanks Shirley. It's really been stressful since my mom had her stroke, not knowing what other damage had been done, what was temporary, what may be permanent, not knowing where she'd end up living. We're really hoping that she will be ok in her own home but also know that it may not work out either. So many things to think about for her safety and disabilities. But she's my mom and I'm glad that she's finally gotten her wish to go back home, something we had never thought was going to be a possibility. We were never given any hope in that direction, but my mom is a trooper, much stronger than I am.

Is your grandpa still living? It is a lot to look after someone after a stroke, but we are sharing in the responsibilities, so it doesn't fall on the hands of one. It's also a labour of love, a deep love we all have for my mom.

as i said, i know that you'll have little time for the forums. we'll send tons of support your way, AG.......your mother is so lucky to have you....

[vacantangel]

Chaos has finally gone....now I'm feeling nothing but hurt, really hurt...rejected?......probably just my insecurities....at least I hope....but now I'm plummeting.

[wi_fighter]

AG, we just don't want you to feel obligated to keep us company in here when you have pressing real life matters on your hands.

I know sometimes it's hard to cut the cord and log off or walk away from the forums. There are times I feel like I can't log off because I'm neeeeeded on here. Then I reality check and realize this place existed before I showed up and did just fine, and it will do fine if and when I don't feel the need to be here anymore.

I think (and I can only speak for myself here) if my mom just got home from a long stay in the hospital, I'd want to be spending time with her instead of logged on to the computer.

Don't feel like you're letting us down if you take some time away to be with her.

indeed, don't feel hurt that you want to spend time with your mother. this is a very delicate time for her and thank goodness that you are there to care for her!! whatever would she do without her children?? and i agree with W1, sometimes we think we have to be here, but in reality, the site will be just fine...honestly...go on and do what you want to do, which is taking care of your dear momi.......

[jmo531]

OK. I may be ummmmmm, assuming here but I think that AG is very hurt by the comments that have been made on this thread as well as some in the general forum.
I understand that IRL as well as here not everyone gets along and/or supports eachothers individual needs. We have different lives, different personalities and so on.
I know that sometimes people here can get to eachother and not get along and lately it has become abundantly clear who those people are. I think it's childish and not necessary and quite honestly, I find it deliberatly hurtful to go out of your way to make someone feel hurt, lonely, unappreciated and not wanted. I understand completly that sometimes people rub eachother the wrong way and this is fine. But instead of replying to a persons post that you dont particulary care about and make them feel like s&%@, why not just, NOT say anything. I could not imagine going out of my way to be hurtful, petty and unkind.

I am sure I'm gonna hear alot from this post. I'm just sick of the tension. That's all. It's just not needed here. It's not. This is not high school.

[vacantangel]

This is the last thread that I will post about my life. I'm tired of all the wrong assumptions and conclusions that are always drawn. All I asked for was hugs. I give up. Thanks for your 'support'. No more replies are necessary. I won't be here to read them. Thanks! Much appreciated.

[oksomaybeimnuts]

(((AngelGirl)))

[vacantangel]

Thanks for the hugs Karen.

(((((((((((((( Karen )))))))))))))

[vacantangel]

Thanks for your support Jen. Much appreciated.

((((((((((((( Jen ))))))))))))))

[darkeyes]

((((((((((( Angel ))))))))))))

DE

[vacantangel]

Please see my reply in regards to my mother's situation in the appropriate thread about her in the General Forum. That's NOT what this thread is about.

This thread is also NOT about a boyfriend. Please don't make any assumptions. The subject of this thread is 'friendship' not 'boyfriend'.

All I asked for in this thread was a supportive cyber HUG.

I feel like I'm almost being ordered to leave the forums to look after my mother. I feel nothing short of being attacked in this thread. The two of you have followed each other to any thread that I've posted and 'attacked' me in discreet ways that others might not pick up on it. But as you know, you were both called out about it in my last thread, as you were also in this thread by other posters who are witnessing it and drawing their own conclusions. I've seen at least one post directed at me from one of you that was so inappropriate that DocJohn deleted it. He also went as far as backing me up in contrary to your negative comments towards me in that same thread, yet here we go again for at least the 4th thread.

I would also ask you to read Jen's reply again. I agree with everything that she stated. It is much the same as the post that Shaymus made to both of you in my last thread. I hope that you two will take heed to their words in the future.

I would please request that neither one of you post on any of my threads anymore or reply any post that I should happen to make on somebody else's thread. I will afford the both of you the same courtesy. In fact, I will be putting you both back on 'ignore' so your replies won't even be seen by me. I will also not be accepting any PMs from either of you. I have to do this for my own emotional safety and self-preservation. I'm sure there are a lot of other people in the forums that you could be 'supporting' instead of me.

Have a good day!!!

[vacantangel]

Thanks for the hugs DE, very much apprecited.

(((((((((((((( DE ))))))))))))))

[heatherm]

(((((((((AngelGirl)))))))))

You asked for hugs hun.....here they are ((((((((AngelGirl)))))))

I have been following the past few messages here and I am shocked by what is going on here. I am not sure what is going on here on this "support" forum but it's stuff like this that is keeping me away from it lately. When I was reading these messages, I could not believe what I was seeing and had to say something. My goodness - if some members where trying to send a hidden message - geesh you made it quite obvious.

((((((((AngelGirl))))))))) I am so sorry....keep doing what you have to do hun...be here if and when you need to - gosh that is what this forum is about....support.

I belonged to another site before joining here and when my Mom was dying...oh man - I was able to keep some of my sanity by posting on the board. This is when you need support the most. Peanut/Jill and SeptMorn/Tomi (as well as others) kept me going in my darkest hours....if it wasn't for them for me to turn to when things were are their worst...gosh I don't know where I would be today.

I will go back to just lurking here every few days....this behaviour from some members here is too triggering for me....I hope that those who are so quick to judge will think before they speak.

(((((((((AngelGirl)))))))))) please take care of yourself.

[oksomaybeimnuts]

(((Heatherm)))- i want to thank you for this post. i was not brave enough to publicly thank jen yesterday, i PM'd her instead. your reasons for lurking and not posting are the same as mine. when i read the replies that AngelGirl was getting, i know she had to have been hurt because they hurt me. (((AngelGirl))) i hope you don't mind me hijacking your post. The post that Heatherm made in General today says it all.