[xkaderzz]

I was with a girl for a couple months. first girl that ever really made me happy. I opened up to her so fast and she opened up to me fast too. we were happier with each other more than we've ever been with anyone else... but I was still in love with an old friend.. she knew I still had feelings for her going into the relationship and was fine with it. and I swore I told her that I was still in love with her but she says I didn't. eventually she got too hurt and we fought constantly about it and out of the heat of the moment, I broke it off with her. I didn't feel like it was right. she was heartbroken and begged for me back and said she didn't care but that just made me feel worse.. I couldn't get back with her knowing I still had feelings for another girl.. later I realized who I really was in love with and that my feelings for the other girl weren't really anything anymore. they had faded... but I guess I realized too late.. she had started drifting away from me and seeing someone else... she said they were just a friend but no matter what I honestly couldn't believe that this was just a friend... today she told me she likes the girl.. she said I pushed her into the comfort of someone else.. I'm insecure and I got jealous and would constantly ask her what was going on and it'd make her so upset and she'd talk to the other girl... she doesn't know what to do and neither do I. she said she just needed to trust me again but now I have to get her to trust me again and fight for her back.. I'm so scared of being hurt again. she lives 30 minutes away from the other girl and 2 hours from me so she sees her more than we see eachother.. I'm just so stuck.. I want her back.. I don't know what to do

[jerrymichele]

Welcome to pc. The only thing that I can think of is sending her flowers. I know that your young, but I would like to say something. Umm it's never good to tell your current partner how you feel about the ex. Really before getting into a new relationship you need to heal from the last relationship first. I hope that everything works out for you.

[possum220]

Just like you had to wait and realize what your true feelings were. They need to do the same. It may or may not take time, but try to be patient. Pushing never helps.

Good Luck

[VickiesPath]

In relationships, there are many things that words cannot create. Trust is one of them. When someone says to you "trust me," what's the first thing you think of? Right! You think, should I? In a relationship, or in life in general, trust is earned. In relationships, love develops over time, you can't make it happen. Comfort develops slowly, you can't make it happen. Trust develops slowly, you can't make it happen. All you can do to get someone to trust you is to act trustworthy. Be consistent in your actions. Do what you say. Act in ways consistent with how you say you feel. What Jerrymichele says is true. Never talk about a previous relationship especially in terms of possibly not being over that person yet. That's really dropping a bomb! Nah, I know it's hard when you are sharing feelings.

I have a suggestion. I sort of sense that she is still hurt and some of her actions are meant to hurt you back. Perhaps if you approach it like, "I don't blame you for feeling hurt after what we went through. I don't want to let you go and would give anything if we could go back to how we were before all of this stuff started. But, if not, then lets stay close and talk and see what happens." Try to be patient. Let her work through her feelings. Can you two meet somewhere between the two hour distance and have dinner or something? You can keep in touch by phone or text? All I can suggest is be there for her consistently and tell her how much you want to prove yourself and try to be patient. She has to decide when she trusts you again.

I hope this helps just a little.