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Old Sep 13, 2009, 07:32 PM
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hi to all, im suffering depression this time coz my bf leave me after everything happened to us. we r almost a year but he is not consistent on his mind his decision is always chnaging sonetimes ok sometimes not. he already propose to me but he got it back..i dnt know how to describe him if he is really just playing hearts, coz before he has many failed relationships i dnt know whats the reason, of course its all positive to his side if he will talk about it. im wondering if he also has attention deficet disorder, his son was diagnosed lately..and now what mke me more depress was i got genital herpes from him, im very down why its easy for him to leave me after all of this. im very good and nice to him my friends even told me he is lucky he got me, but i dnt know what kind of heart he have. he even told me i should not get worried i had herpes i can stil find another guy, i told him its very hard coz im guilty if i wil look for other guy. and besides i dnt want to infect other.. what i want is him coz i love him also but he said he is not happy with me, he is afraid of getting bored which is not acceptable to me coz beforehand he already know coz he is asking and told him all about me.. its so hard to accept all of this, im so deppressed.
thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for advise..thank you

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Old Sep 14, 2009, 09:49 AM
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Welcome to pc. I'm not really sure how to answer this, so hopefully others will respond to you. need advice





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Old Sep 14, 2009, 10:06 AM
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Hi and welcome to PC! I'm sorry that you're going through a difficult time right now. It sounds like you're making excuses for his behavior for him. He doesn't sound like a very good catch to me. If he gave you herpes without warning you ahead of time that this was a possibility, in my eyes that makes him lower than pond scum and says a lot about his moral character. There is no shame in having herpes, it is very common and easily controlled these days, but the reason (I think) that it's so common is because people that have it aren't honest about it.

It's very upsetting when a relationship ends, but it sounds like you're much better off without him.
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Old Sep 14, 2009, 07:12 PM
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yah he is not really honest about herpes, he only told me after sex happen, so i dnt have any choice but accept. he didnt even used condom i dnt know if he intends it coz he only knw he have it, he was even always talking about health, he said he is so health consciuos so what im thinking is he is clean guy. but he is not honest...im really upset about this things, and also very hurting he didnt even support me this time im so down, he preffered not talking to me coz i always told him why he did this to me, he ruins my life. he gets angry easily and if i say something not good for him to hear he get angry coz its true.. thanks for advice hope i can stil hear advices.. for this how can i recover im really very down..i was thinking how can i get married, im guilty of what i hve for sure if a guy know i hve this herpes he wnt like me.. i wanna get married. what wil i do for this guy, its like i cant just let him go after all of this.
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Old Sep 15, 2009, 08:44 PM
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what wil i do now?....i cant just let him go after all of this. my life really ruins i got herpes sad thing...
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Old Sep 15, 2009, 11:42 PM
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Just because you have herpes does not mean that you are unclean or somehow damaged for life. Perhaps you would have chosen to have unprotected sex with him, but the fact that he knew and really didn't care enough about your well being to inform you... to me at least SCREAMS that he's self-centered.

You can control this disease and take the precautions necessary not to spread it. Just remember IF/WHEN you decide to have children to share this info with your OB. It's been a long time since I've taken medical classes, but there are complications that can arise from a vaginal birth if you have an active outbreak, an infection of the baby's eyes ring a bell.

Just remember you're not alone, 50 million American's admit to having this disease, and how many million more either don't know or aren't being honest. Try this website if you're interested in more information.

http://www.famvir.com/info/faq/genit...73835581451519
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Old Sep 16, 2009, 08:11 PM
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thanks so much for the information..you are inspiring to me, i was really down about it now i was relieved by ur message. thanks
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Old Sep 16, 2009, 08:53 PM
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I'm glad that you're feeling better, instead of using this as a reason that you have to stay with him, see it instead as the reason you absolutely know you cannot. You deserve and will find someone much better. I'm truly sorry that you have to deal with this. But with proper nutrition, stress management and medication you can control the outbreaks. You have every reason to be upset and angry, but please do not let him further affect your life by making you feel trapped.

Start by realizing that this man is not worth your time.
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Old Sep 17, 2009, 08:16 AM
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i am very happy of your advice. thanks!..you give me hope..thank you so much you are nice person you're not making me more down...have a nice day! tc
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