i need answers

My husband and I have been married for 18 yrs,we have two teenage daughters.For most of the 18 yrs my husband has done some really bad things.In the last3 to 5 yrs my husband has lied more than he has told the truth.Since 2007 I have caught my husband making obscene phone calls to woman ,some of whom we know the others were random.I have caught him communicating with a woman on the computer and him lieng about being at work when he had gone to her home.And most recently I caught him having what I call an emotional affair with a girl I know, I am devastated everything that he has ever done he claims is my fault he never admits anything is his fault .These things that I have listed above are just the most recent , there are alot.I am sick of him blaming me and telling me i am bi polar when its very clear that he is the one who has the problem so please somebody tell me what is wrong with my husband

Hello Ghostgirl, it's nice to meet you, welcome to psych central.
Have you talked to your husband about going to couples therapy?
I think and this is just my opinion, you should look at the good vs the bad in this situation and if it seems like the bad has out weighed the good for a long period of time then maybe you should consider making a decision on if you really want to stay in this relationship.

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Have you thought of saying to him ' My bipolar has an adverse affect on you so I am kicking you out for your own safty and sanity' .....

I would pack his bags for him as well so he dosnt forget anything and have to come back.

Helluva idea!!!!

i think you should try couples therapy to find out why he thinks he needs to go outside the relationship. Cool name by the way how did you choose that name.

Hi, welcome to pc. I'm sorry that your in so much pain. I think that you need to set boundaries with him for your sake. He isn't going to change until you put your foot down. You need to make the choice for him. Meaning you need to leave the relationship. I do think therapy would help you right now. That excuse with the bipolar is what it is an excuse. Keep posting.

hi, welcome to pc

i hope you find friendship and support here

in response to your post, i feel so sorry for your having suffered so long with this infidelity and pain.

my frank opinion is that after all this time your husband is not likely to change
and i wish you could consider getting out of the relationship completely and working on healing yourself
i would hope you would find peace and happiness in your life - beyond this loser.
no one deserves to live like that.

many of us have suffered the same or similiar issues in relationships
i'm here if you want to talk
all my best to you hon
xx