[aria83]

I posted here a few weeks ago about seeing someone. Well, we're still dating! I've come here though, because I have a problem.

I have issues with ocd and social anxiety, general anxiety, ruminations, and some hypochondria. I need help! I posted in anxiety forum for that and will talk to my therapist.

My issue is that he is normal and has a life and I want to share things with him. but I'm scared. I have shared with him before about my issues but it was awkward. He said he was ok with it, but I don't believe him and I don't know why. I also compare myself to him and assume that he will get tired of me because of my illness. who knows tho maybe he'll get tired of me for some other reason lol. that's a joke, but really I am just scared of losing him and I feel like right now I want to be very close to him and know him and have him be my other half or something. I think I need confidence.

advice or support appreciated

[Yoda]

Hi Aria,

I can relate to your story from both sides. I was in a relationship before and quickly became dependent on the guy because I thought I needed him to be okay. And on the flip side I started seeing a guy who quickly became dependent on me. I wanted to take things slow and just be friends at first but within three weeks after we met he kept telling me he loved me and persisted saying that even when I told him it was too soon for love.

I don't think I am one to give advice but if I would start dating again I would focus on getting to know each other for awhile before I started opening up about my issues. There is no hurry.

Anyway here is one of my fav songs that sums up my thoughts pretty well. Good luck.

[jerrymichele]

There is nothing to be ashamed about with having anxiety. I know it sucks. If you tell your Dr. to adjust your meds it should really help you. I take paxil for my anxiety, and it really has made a big, big difference in my life. Before the meds I couldn't even get into a car. I'm able to do that now. If you don't feel comfy telling bf now, than wait until your meds are adjusted.

[smilewithme]

just trust in ur self..

[aria83]

thanks guys

Last night we talked and it was a really good talk. I still have issues with anxiety which I am going to talk to my doctor about, but I'm glad he is seeming accepting. yoda, love the song. and jerry michele, thanks for the med advice, I'll bring it up to my doc.

[theotterone]

Hang in there! You may be surprised.

D and I were dating for about a week when I "presented" him with all my "demons". I was surprised because he stuck with me. We have been together 12 1/2 years and married all but 6 of those. We have our issues, but it's working out.

It is hard to accept yourself when society as a whole views mental illness so negatively. Work on loving yourself. I know it is cliche, but it is easier to love other people when you do!