Very selfish me!!

Most of the time, I don't like giving or sharing anything, may it be a thing or even information, to other people.

I feel so insecured that I think once I have already given what they want, they'll just turn around and leave me alone. Some may think this is irrational but it has been done me to more than once by people whom I thought were real friends.

I also want to love and make friends but I feel giving something to them is like sacrificing my whole self for uncertain friends.

you've already shared by making this post and you'll find that the folks here will give freely of their support......don't be afraid to open up.....

((((((((((((Piggy))))))))))))))

Thank you for sharing. I think this has to with trust. I have the very same kind of issues. It is hard to give all of ourselves to someone and then to be rejected. I understand your pain. Your not alone. But as butterfly said, you have opened up here and shared something that was obviously so difficult to share. Please keep posting. Take care.

Thanks. Honest feedbacks make me feel really good.

I use to feel the same way. And now I have a lot of friends and a family of my own. What I did was changed my standards in people and accepted them for them and even if I had lots of feelings or liked that person I would not revile it intil they show me the same as I feel. Then you can become to trust and share your part because if you tell them immediatly they may take it for granted. And every since I've changed my thinking it has help. Because I never trusted or loved anyone intil I was 24 years old and I am now 26

Welcome to the Psych Central Forums, Piggysmile and Cebony.

Piggy, I am dealing with this kind of thing too. I have very serious issues with insecurity so I can say that if you're been hurt like this before, it's not uncommon to feel the way you do. Are you in therapy? It's very much helping me with this.

Ry