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Sep 28, 2009, 12:07 AM
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For five months now I have watched my new boyfriend do "nothing." He says he is going to look for work and does not, he says he is going to do something and he doesn't. This has been going on for almost half a year. I am supporting him both financially and emotionally. I have lost trust in him because he just does not follow through with anything. I cannot take anymore of this. I am breaking up with him tomorrow. What causes a person to be a total flake?
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Sep 28, 2009, 12:39 AM
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I agree with you. If he can't work then it's time to go.
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Sep 28, 2009, 04:48 AM
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thanks, Jerrymichele. I appreciate your support!
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Sep 28, 2009, 04:49 AM
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Oh, and he is not depressed.
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Sep 28, 2009, 12:56 PM
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I dont know how old you are, but understanding when a loser is going to support you or not is a great knowledge to have. Everyone should be in a relationship equal. When 1 has to pick up pace for the other, life is no fun. Go out and find yourself someone who is equal!
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Sep 30, 2009, 10:23 AM
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Did you actually break up with him? Just kind of curious how things went. When I met my husband he was working. We moved in together and his "headaches" got so bad he lost his job. Every time we get in a fight about money he plays the martyr saying he needs to go out and get a job - but he doesn't. As far as he tells me he has been offered several jobs but each one has something come up and he's still sitting at home IMing, texting me, and calling me at work and if I don't answer because I'm working he gets upset with me. So maybe this is more of a way for me to vent than to give you any real advice.
If I had known all of this when we met my life would be a LOT different. Just remember that people don't change all that much. If you have problems with his behavior now get away from it. You gave it a chance and he wasn't the one for you. Now move on. Keep me posted with a PM if you would like. |
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Oct 01, 2009, 04:09 AM
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Dear Phoenix ~ There probably are problems inside this man that cause him to behave as he does, but you can't make them YOUR problems. Congratulations on moving on from him. But look for clues to these types as early in your subsequent relationships as possible. Possibly you are a very independent type of person, who naturally attracts [and may be attracted TO, without realizing why] dependent types of people. Learn to discern who they are before you get too attached. Sign me "Been there, done that," billieJ
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