Ok Ill try here instead. (Momma boy)

no no nvm. I regret asking a serious relationship question here. Im the bad guy, Im crazy, so Im clearly clearly wrong in everything I say, I get it.

i was just asking for some help with my fiancee. He spends the night with his mom 2 or 3 days a week and eats breakfast and dinner with them pretty often and it makes me feel terrible. I dont like them, they insulted me several times, so dont even bother asking him if I can come too.

I dont want to go because I LIVE here and he supposedly does too and he should realize I take care of the home, clean after him, give him love and everything else as well. Not his mom. He isnt a little boy anymore and needs to realize that. He has a family now of his own.

I would talk to him directly and tell him (calmly) how you feel. If he intends to continue going there (without you) after you are married, it might be something that could benefit being talked about now. You aren't married yet and even when you are, he will be a separate person with thoughts and wishes and desires of his own.

Could you re-post? Don't be afraid, maybe you can get some good suggestions

I think that you should tell him how you feel. I also had the same problems with the inlaws at one time. Just when you tell him try not to be confrontational with him. A lot of men are very sensitive about their mothers. I know that your uppset with him, and you have a right to be. Argueing will not help with him trying to get him to compromise with you.

I dont think I could ever have a long term relationship with a Momma's Boy.

My ex he was like this. What a lot of the problem was is that his mom would make it a point to make her kids feel bad about anything that would go wrong with her. To be honest with you, I don't understand why some women do this to their kids. I have boys, and a girl, and I would never due this to my kids. It's not fair to them. Besides the fact that it can really ruin their kids relationship. In this situation the parents seem to want to compete with Nypheria.

Nypheria...hi
Don't give up
You are not the bad guy, crazy, or wrong...

I agree that having a calm and honest talk with him may clear the air between the two of you. Perhaps y'all can compromise whereas he sees his mother just once or twice a week and you make plans for yourself to get out of the house and meet with friends.
It's early in your relationship and these things need to be addressed...

He does need to recognize that you should be the center of his attention. He can still give his mother enough attention to ease any guilt he may feel and to deflect any guilt trip his mother may try and lay on him...

There is love between the two of you. Compromise is essential in a healthy relationship...perhaps some counseling would help?

Jmo, but no mother should be making these demands on him when he has a life with you. But he also should stand up for you and honor what you need from him.

Talk...it can make things so much easier...my own experience is not to make accusations, but be truthful;
"When you do this (whatever it is) it makes me feel bad."
Ask him to listen to you completely before he answers, then you do the same thing for him.
It's a start on opening up better communication...

My best wishes,

Catherine

He is going to something called "little treasures" parade with is mommy.

Whatever though, I will be home alone and watch Cats the musical and make ME a spectacular lunch that will leave him begging. :P

I'm so sorry that you're in this ackward relationship. I don't even know what I would do in this situation. Being the mother of two adults and two near adults, I hope to continue a close relationship with them for the rest of our lives.

I hope that when they enter a serious relationship that I can be at least civil, for the sake of my child.

Be careful what you request of him. Significant others come and go. You may plan to be with them the rest of your life, but reality is that 1 out of 2 marriages end in divorce. Your parents, your children, your siblings, these are the only truly irreplaceable people in my opinion. A person can have an infinate number of spouses but only two parents.

Having said that, I do think it's odd that he chooses to spend so much time away from you. If he spends so much time at his parents house that it actually makes you wonder where he lives, then it doesn't sound (to me) like he's very committed to this relationship. I wonder where he conciders home.

to be honest he sounds like a mama's boy and needs to cut the emblical cord.

Sounds like he likes mommas home/cooking/company. Perhaps you could create a warm loving environment as well.