[Peppermint_Patty]

Hello,

Recently the company I work for hired a new person to our department. I took part in the interview process along with my boss and a member of HR. The interview went well and based on the candidate's resume (the person had extensive computer skills), I recommended to my boss that we hire this person.

Anyway... now I am beginning to wonder if I didn't make a mistake in providing my recommendation. Although I still think this person has the skills to do the job, they are a non-stop talker.

One of my other bosses has already approached me about this person's hyper-verbalness.

They are not concerned with it so much as they find it a bit hilarious because the blabber mouth is very weird (a complete and total nerd) and extremely socially awkward.

While I also find this person's behavior very funny... their non-stop boring talk is starting to really grate on my nerves because I have to work with them on regular basis every day.

To make matters worse, this person doesn't seem to pick up on social cues that the other person is disinterested... they just keep right on blabbing away.

In the mornings, before work starts at 8, they will even follow you around the office to gab too. Aaaaaaaaargh!!!!

Also to compound matters further this person has admitted to struggling with their self esteem.

Whenever they have done something in the past that was wrong they apologize profusely and will even send me a very wordy thank-you card about it.

Sooo... How do you deal with someone like that???

Peppermint

[jerrymichele]

I would ignore her. If she's doing her job what else can you do. If she is getting on everyone else's nerves sooner or later she will get the hint.

[Rose3]

wish that I knew the answer to this,
because I know people like this too.

[Shangrala]

You obviously saw competence in this individual for what he has to offer the company. With that, I would stick with what your first impressions were of this person, and ignore the rest.

Just accept the fact that you may have to bite the bullet, and tongue, on this decision you've made, and possibly recognize the fact that (just maybe), sometimes we are not as good with our judgments of others as we like to think we are.

Lesson learned....(Although, especially in the professional society, first impressions are the most important), perhaps to try and see the person as a whole, instead of as just a description in text on a resume?

Just a thought.

Shangrala

Can you take them for a drink after work one evening and tell her/him how much you like them and how you wouldn't dream of saying the this in front of anyone at the office so thought this would be a great idea !

Tell them that you get headaches when you have to speak too often that you have always been like this and so need some peace throughout the day.

Is it possible for you to tone down the speaking a little for you ?

Say it with a smile. And plenty of assurance that you like her/him.

Its not lying as it is getting to you.

[JayS]

I could tell you what to do, but you won't like it.

[Gabi925]

Please, say it "JayS"!

I have a person like this in my family and I wish to know what's to be done in such situations without offending; usually that seems to bring more words.

[SilverNeurotic]

I put up with a coworker that just talked and talked. At first it drove me crazy and I HATED the day I worked with her...but then her husband passed away and I realized that perhaps she talked a lot at work because she really didn't have anyone else to talk to.

Maybe your coworker talks a lot at work because she doesn't have anyone else to really talk to?

[50guy]

Sometimes it is good to ignore the person or, tell them you have a lot on your mind and need to get your work completed. I usually just tell them that they need to work more and talk less. I am a supervisor and have one particular person that is ADD. He will constantly stop and talk to people instead of being on task. I have reminded him and counseled him many times, finally I gave him a scheduel and spelled out where and when he was to complete each task. I hope for his sake it works because otherwise he will lose his job. I think this person in your workplace is lonely and just wants what everyone else wants.....to be accepted. A nice lunch chat may do the trick, just be up front and honest and tell the person you cannot be chatting all day long when we are being paid to work. Save it for break time or lunch.

Eric

[Pomegranate]

I would try being kindly honest about YOUR feelings. And find creative ways to focus her attention back on doing her work. If she's really too bad and not getting her work done, and not letting you get your work done, then go to her boss and say so.

[Gabi925]

Originally Posted by Peppermint_Patty

Hello,

Recently the company I work for hired a new person to our department. I took part in the interview process along with my boss and a member of HR. The interview went well and based on the candidate's resume (the person had extensive computer skills), I recommended to my boss that we hire this person.

Anyway... now I am beginning to wonder if I didn't make a mistake in providing my recommendation. Although I still think this person has the skills to do the job, they are a non-stop talker.

One of my other bosses has already approached me about this person's hyper-verbalness.

They are not concerned with it so much as they find it a bit hilarious because the blabber mouth is very weird (a complete and total nerd) and extremely socially awkward.

While I also find this person's behavior very funny... their non-stop boring talk is starting to really grate on my nerves because I have to work with them on regular basis every day.

To make matters worse, this person doesn't seem to pick up on social cues that the other person is disinterested... they just keep right on blabbing away.

In the mornings, before work starts at 8, they will even follow you around the office to gab too. Aaaaaaaaargh!!!!

Also to compound matters further this person has admitted to struggling with their self esteem.

Whenever they have done something in the past that was wrong they apologize profusely and will even send me a very wordy thank-you card about it.

Sooo... How do you deal with someone like that???

Peppermint

Okay, I see we have to do not divert from workplace to family's one as I did.

But it's hard to understand if it's a person (no gender mention here, but I see that while answering it was identified as a "he" or a "she") or more "they" or "their behaviour"

?

[Shangrala]

Originally Posted by Gabi925

Okay, I see we have to do not divert from workplace to family's one as I did.

But it's hard to understand if it's a person (no gender mention here, but I see that while answering it was identified as a "he" or a "she") or more "they" or "their behaviour"

?

I noticed that immediately, as well.
Perhaps the OP made the deliberate decision not mention gender as to not commit herself to appearing discriminative. (I replied with the person in question as a "he", while most other's assumed person was a "she"...lol...not that it really matters, as the op created this in question).

It does make replying a bit awkward as it kind of forces us to think...."Who/What ARE we replying about, exactly?"

Shangrala