Addicted To Beautiful Women

I think I may be addicted to beautiful women. I mean I can't seem to help myself . It's not like I'm addicted to sex or thinking perverted thoughts. But I find myself searching the net for beautiful actresses , beautiful models , beautiful anime women , beautiful fantasy women , I can't seem to stop it . Is this normal behavior ?
Maybe that's why I'm still single. All the women I ever had relationships with were pretty and had nice butts. I also love looking at women's butts , not so much their boobs but I always loved butts.
Can someone not put importance on how someone looks if they seem to be only attracted to beautiful women or is that just born into you ?
I was on a dating site for a while and I was getting asked out on dates but these women were not very attractive to me and were possibly some of the nicest women out there . I mean I'm not attractive myself , so why should I expect to only date beautiful women.
I find beautiful women very intimidating to me . I know this is probably normal for most men but should I talk to my Psych about it.
How much is too much . I think I'll go look up some Kate Beckinsale pictures.
Here's a link I found about a 94 year old man addicted to beauty.
http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/china/2...ent_591472.htm

Do I need help?
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How am I supposed to even start a relationship if I base it solely on beauty ? I wish I wasn't like this because I know it's wrong.

If it consumes your thoughts, you wake up needing to seek out these pictures, your at work and are distracted by these thoughts and cant wait to get home so you can look at these pics you may have a problem. Talk to your therapist about it. Good luck.

A lot of times when you obsess about something in someone else its projecting due to your own insecurity. Maybe you are insecure about your own attractiveness so that's why you focus on others. Does this have anything to do with how you think others view you? Like if you date an ugly woman they will think less of you? I agree that you should talk to a therapist about this. Whenever girls focus only on beautiful girls it tends to be because they don't really love or accept themselves.

Yes , I am very insecure about my looks. But I'm not worried about people thinking less of me . I just want to know why I'm like this.
Thanks for your input salukigirl, I will talk to my Psych about it.

Well, the fact IS hard to deny....that a beautiful woman is quite irresistible to look at. But if it consumes most of your thoughts and depending on how long it's been going on, then perhaps it is time to seek understanding as to why.

Good question, though....What is TOO much?, (of anything, for that matter). What may be enough for one, may be not enough for another, or too much for yet another. That makes it kind of difficult to apply to any one individual, actually.

So long as you're healthy and able to function without experiencing interference or harm, then....what IS too much?

Lotsa your way, mister.

Shangrala

I don't think this is necessarily a bad thing unless you are actively stalking. Remember, what is beauty to one is beast to another. They may not be beauties after all but only to you, so what is the harm? If this is of course interfering with your waking hours or other daytime activities then it may be something to look into. Is your mother a beauty???

It doesn't consume most of my thoughts , but sometimes I wish it did because my other thoughts haven't been the best lately . It's been going on all my life , but I find myself getting drawn into it more the last few months . It's not so much the nudity , it's more in the eyes and face . I guess it can't hurt nothing , I just thought it might be turning into an obsession. Thanks for your reply. Hugs

Well , I'm not actively stalking , talking , or even walking . Just with my dog. So I guess there are much worse things I could be doing.
Yes , my mother was a beauty . Not to the eye , but to the heart.
Thanks for your reply. Hugs

Edit............No I'm not stalking my dog. Just verifying that.

Great sense of humor, Baby steps. Hang in there.

I don't see anything wrong with this. Don't we all like to look at beautiful women??

Wow, I wish I had advice for you but Im not sure what to say except the good news is that your conscience is speaking to you loud and clear. Are you sure that you aren't feeling guilty for only wanting to be with beautiful women because society looks down on shallow people? I'm not calling you shallow but most people think that others who focus on looks are shallow. OR do you think you feel guilty about this because you were taught differently? Just some ideas to ponder. Good luck!

Ooops one last thing....I commend you for posting this. It's refreshing to see a mans point of view about this subject. You give hope to women by showing your vulnerablilty in regards to this topic. Kudos!

I think women are beautiful period. I have a whole file dedicated to pics of beautiful women from Audrey Hepburn to Halle Berry. I don’t think there is anything wrong with admiring the goddess in this way. The cool thing is you will come to find that beauty is so far deeper than you imagine.

Did I mention I love women?...

I don't think I'm shallow because I think it's important to be involved on an emotional level and I do know many average looking women
that I would date if the opportunity came up. Teach me more.
I'm all ears.

lol, every strait dude loves beautiful women.

For a woman, I like looking at mens hard bodies. lol, But imo if you have a bad attitude, personality, etc, etc, etc, and think your GODs gift to women. Well I might find you very ugly. In my case I'm attracted to a man's mind.

You know when I first read this I thought maybe it was directed at me personally and it hurt because this thread was not intended to degrade anybody . I just said I thought I may be obsessing too much over beautiful women. We all know beauty comes from the heart
I'm sorry I even started this thread and if it hit a nerve with anyone.
And if it was directed at me , just so you all know .
I certainly don't think I'm God's gift to women.
My attitude may need some adjustments I do agree.
I have noticed a little more family feuds lately and it is disturbing to say the least. One member once said he was afraid to post anything in the color red as it may trigger someone. I thought he was overreacting a bit at the time , but now I understand what he meant.
I guess you can't please everyone . My mistake . I think I'll stick to posting hearts. No harm in that I hope.
Peace to everyone

Your thread talks about BEAUTIFUL WOMAN. Whats wrong with a woman looking at men who work out. That is what I like to look at. My comment was not a direct attack towards you or anyone else on here. I was just saying that a good looking guy can be ugly when they have a bad attitude. Most women look, but they are more attracted to a mans mind. I know that is my case anyways. I don't understand how my comment turned into me attacking you, or anyone else on here.

Hi Babysteps

What you see on the screen is merely a fantasy, even if they are real people. I don't think it's harmful, but it may be contributing to your single status.

You've had relationships with pretty women in the past. How did that turn out? Were they just as beautiful on the inside? My guess is they weren't. They may be pretty packages, but oftentimes there's nothing inside - or what's inside is very ugly.

If you're thinking about being with someone for the long haul, just remember that beauty does not last very long. If you search only for physical beauty, you'll end up with an empty package - or a monster.

Go ahead and drool over Kate, but try to find the beauty in the real women in your life too.

you ever heard that oldies song by Harry Belafonte......if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your life, so from my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you. HA.

there is a video on the dove website showing a woman going in, shes just average looking, and they do a fast forward through the entire process of make-up, hair and photoshop. its crazy....they don't even look like the same person. remember - photoshop works wonders lol

LOL Salukigirl

Chris, Chris, Chris.....

You should not have regrets for starting this thread.
I think it's a wonderful thread. It took courage to share with us your uncertainties, and there is no shame in that whatsoever.

And, No! We cannot please everyone here by how we express ourselves. There will always be someone who will respond as offended, or triggered, and unfavored. But, that should never stop you from reaching out here and talking to us. NEVER. I love your posts and your sense of humor. Keep em commin.

In regards to this thread of yours.....
I'm attracted to beautiful women, too. Lauren Bacall is one. In my opinion, she was one of THE most stunning women on screen to date. Of course, there are hundreds of others, (but with my memory, can't tell you names...lol).

In my opinion, being attratcetd to the physical isn't shallow. It's completely natural. Although, it's already been said here that investing into the physical as the foundation of any relationship can be a recipie for eventual disaster. No need to go further into that...lol, as you've already stated that is not your intentions.

Personally, I stop in my tracks when I see a man with a well groomed beard. It's the beard that does it for me every time. It doesn't matter the color of the beard, necessarily, so long as it isn't growin wild...wrapped around his neck and down to his chest...lmao.
And men don't need a full head of hair to be attractive. It's how they carry themselves that attracks me. Style is essential. Class. Courtesy.
I'm partial to gray on men, I think it adds a look of distinguished class.

And women..what catches my eye is legs, and their style. They've gotta have style. And....less is more. The less makeup, accessories, fashion, and exposed skin, the more attractive they are. Tats and piercings, if done with class n style, can be attractive....so long as not overdone.

We all have our preferances. What's good for one, isn't for another. It's all good, including YOUR'S, Chris.

Don't feel regret for posting....anything. That's what we ALL are here for, Mister....ok?

(Btw...I don't think Michele was addressing you, in particular. I think she was generalizing the "you" as "they" instead).

Shangrala

Straight men aren't the only ones who have an eye for beauty.....

idk, i have met quite a few thin, tall, pretty, attractive young women. i have
not found that they tend to be any more or less ugly on the inside than
any other women ive known. i don't really know anyone i would consider
ugly on the inside.