Being selfish or overreacting?

Today I got a call from a university I applied to and I got accepted into their phd program. I considered this kind of a big deal because I don't have my masters; I'm going straight from a BS to a PhD and am getting an assistantship to go. My boyfriend was writing his final for his class so I texted him with the good news and he called me within 2 minutes which I thought meant he wanted to congratulate me. But instead he was talking about his final and his students. And then right before he went to hang up he said "oh yeah and congratulations".

I thought maybe he was just really busy and would say something when I got home. Well I got home and he hasn't said a word about it. No "that's really awesome" or anything. Not even a mentioning. He just keeps talking about this final he's writing.

I feel like if I sit here and listen to him talk about his final and his students, I should get a little attention for something like going for my doctorate ate age 22. I feel like that an accomplishment that not a lot of people can say they have done.

Do I have a reason to be a little irked? All I really want is a little enthusiasm. When I act excited but don't get any excitement in return I feel like maybe it's not something to be that proud about. Reminds me of my dad and how if I tell him anything exciting all I get is "nice job". I had a 4.0 for my first 3 years in college and never got anything out of him and I was just hoping maybe my bf wasn't the same way. Am I just overreacting?

Well, personally I don't think you were overreacting, I would feel a little neglected too. What I would say is something along the lines of

I'm quite hurt that you didn't congratulate me, I think I have done really well and I'm proud of myself. You have hurt my feelings by not mentioning my achievemenets. I'm so proud of you and what you have done and have always supported you, now I would lilke your support?

Just my opinion, and Congratulations, that is some achievement and good luck in the future .

Sometimes it's kind of easy to get takin up with our own stuff, I doubt he meant to hurt or ignore you, I'll bet he will be mortified when you tell him you were upset much love, Ophelia xxx

Thanks Ophelia. I took your advice and told him it made me upset. He apologized and said he got sidetracked and didn't mean to make it about himself. Thanks for the congrats also.

Bozo boyfriend! I am in awe of what you have achieved!!!

Well Well done!! This is a great achievement! I have a masters and know how difficult it is to get into a phd. so at 22 and after a BS - that is really great! Go and celebrate with your boyfriend!!

Congratulations, salukigirl. Presuming the guy at the bar is your boyfriend, there is some irony your photo album is entitled, "My Babies." Perhaps even subliminal.

Haha that was originally created for my cats

Congrats to you. That is really awesome. He might be jealous.

Thanks everyone. I have dated guys who were intimidated by me making more money or getting better grades/opportunities and I don't think he is like that. He has said he will proudly be the stay at home dad while I bring home the bacon haha

When he started talking about it with me he did get really excited. So much so that he has already started looking for jobs and houses lol. So I think it was just a fluke that he didn't say anything the first time.