My sister

Tonite on Facebook my sister ran into me. It has been 3 years since the last time I talked to her. It was really strange. I stopped talking to my family, because they like so much drama. My sister started gossiping again about another family member. I just acted like I didn't read the comment. I really don't know what to say to her. Each of my mom's family members all take sides with whoever. Everytime I see them they start running their mouth about me. So, should I just tell her that I don't like being sterotyped, and backstabbed. She is who she is, and even if I did tell her that it won't change the fact. The last time I seen her she was so upset that I couldn't go do something with her she flipped out, and I never seen her after that. She left as a way of getting back at me. I did make it a point to let her know that I will not get into deep conversations with any of the family members. I don't know, this is so strange to me.

ignore her gossip, and just say hi. the more you chit chat, you can remind her you don't do gossip and are not going to discuss anything very personal due to the families need to gab.

I agree, ignore the gossip. I really think Facebook and MSN is really bad for gossiping and bullying . Too bad it's also being used to vent family problems now. My daughters on facebook and sometimes kids will make negative comments on each others page. Sometimes when someone is trying to gain another person's confidence, they will start gossiping about a mutual enemy. Perhaps she was indirectly trying to get you to talk to her. I agree it must feel awkward.

I agree with everyone else. If you want to remain in contact, each time she starts gossiping, change the subject... ask her about herself, everyone likes to talk about themselves. Eventually she should put two and two together.

Thanks for the replies. To be honest, I can't stand her. I love her, but I have really no reason to be around her. I already know that if I was to see her again there would be nothing but trouble. My sister and her husband would get upset about something that I would do. My sister loves to be the center of attention. When you do something that upsets her, she will find a way to get revenge. She likes to control people, and I don't like to be controlled. I could write a book on our issues. Right now one of her kids isn't talking to her, because her son went and lived with his dad. The stepmom told me that my sister took her son's car from him, and some of his savings. The stepmom told me that her husband had to take my sister to court so the boy could get his car, and money back. Her other son graduated back in June, and my sister just showed up. The stepmom told me that she didn't even give him a card or anything. I really feel bad for the kids. Yesterday she was trying to tell me how my cousin had her kids taking away. I didn't even want to hear it. It's a mess. There is alot more things. I just don't want to be around it.

Life stays still without changes..........cut out the drama and live.

I agree with everyone else. My step-mom is that way too. My dad and her got divorced but we still talked because she has been around since I was 7 but everytime I saw her all she wanted to do was talk smack about my dad. And even though I dislike my dad just as much as the next guy, he's still my father. So I stopped talking to her and her daughter and son. Then about 3 years later they all found me on Facebook and I added them but still kind of ignore them. I just hated how exhausting it was. I think drama is just unnecessary, especially when its about other family members. So I would just be nice but not give any of the drama your time. Its not worth it.

I can relate to how you feel, Michele.

I've discovered that the best way that I get along with my family is to not be around them at all...lol...sad, but true. Yet, the gossip continues, but...at least I'm not directly subjected to it. They can think and say whatever they like. So long as I know what the truth is, that's all that matters to me, (and the fact that I keep my daughter away from that mass of messed up relations).

I love my family, but I am SO different from them all..I can't stand being around them.
They are a group of arrogant hypocrites who think only their opinion is the right one.. can't see past their own egos.. measure success to the amount of money you earn.. judge one's beauty by their exterior, (which blows me away cuz all of them are nothing to stop in your tracks for to catch a second look...lol). And they're all so negative....ewww. (Just recently, was looking over some past family photos, and Kristian pointed out to me how no one in my family smiles. My daughter and I were the only ones radiating "life"). Once he pointed that out to me, I was compelled to look at more pics...and he's right...My family, the Darkclouds...lmao.

Keep true to yourself, Michele, (as I know you do, despite the pain of it all).

Mary