[firstmate]

Right now I'm the only adult in a household of 4 of us around 40 and two older teenagers. I'm the only one with a job and the only one who has a driver's license. One of the other 40ish people is on unemployment and looking for a job, but she is also became the drinking buddy for my husband (her brother) and is continuing with risky relationships outside of her committed partner. They expect me to drive them around town for various events - migraine or not. I've been stressed about money for most of my life, but this added strain is keeping my head pounding - sometimes it's a full body migraine, sometime it's just a tension headache that feels like a rubberband is around the top of my head.

I'm not looking for advice, just a place to vent. They don't realize how childish they are acting. All three of the 40 year olds grew up in abusive situations and never really developed into adulthood. I can see that, but there's no way to tell them that. I'm just looking forward to a time when it's just my husband and I (and our cats) again. I can deal with him as long as he doesn't have an audience that laughes at each of his drunken episodes.

GRRRRRRRRR

How soon do you expect the extras to be gone?

[shezbut]

(((firstmate)))

I hope that things improve for you very soon. Best wishes!

[firstmate]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

How soon do you expect the extras to be gone?

That's part of the frustrations. The one who had a job is actively looking, or so she says, and on unemployment, which now she claims is being garnished for an incedent three years ago. Before Christmas she said she had a job starting January 4. She went in several days in December "to train" so she would be ready to go the first working day of the new year. Then they supposedly told her the job wasn't open like they thought it would be.

The other "adults" all have a problem with reality. In the past they have all used complicated stories to cover up indiscretions and basic bad behavior. In short, I can't believe anything they tell me, even my own husband, when it comes to money.

There is really no talk of them leaving until they have a job, which doesn't look all that promising in this economy. They are also looking forward to working in the garden I planned to set up and talking about how we are going to handle next Christmas.

This weekend my husband realized how frustrating his sister's behavior is. When I pointed out that he does many of the things he was complaining about - basically not thinking of other people - he got upset. He wants to talk to her, but knows it will cause an argument. When I told him that's why I don't talk to him about things he got upset again.

I'm not looking for a way out, just trying to think of how to deal with the situation without driving myself into a depression.