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May 17, 2010, 06:30 PM
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My wife's one time thing, with this other guy is still weighing heavy on my mind. I try to let it go, and things were starting to calm down a little bit. No one has ever talked to people outside of the situation about the situation. He is friends with some not many, but some of my friends on facebook. It actually happened out of pure coincidence. The trouble is I can't stand fb giving me suggestions, and a few people doing these suggestions. I don't visit these people's profiles anymore and one of them is a close friend. So I just gave up on trying. Today I deactivated my account. I wanted to go totally off and never have to think about it again. It didn't work. My wife called and got a little upset that she couldn't contact me like that anymore, and she likes doing the cafeworld thing so she can build up her points. Doesn't matter I guess, but I swore off using it, even if I do have an account. I'm afraid that more questions will be "how come you're never on?" I don't want to deal with that.
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May 17, 2010, 06:39 PM
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It is your decision to make.
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May 17, 2010, 07:02 PM
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Sorry to hear that facebook became so nightmarish for you. Fortunately, there is no law against getting the h**l out of there! You won't find me on any of those things
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May 17, 2010, 09:02 PM
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does your wife know why you have signed out of there for good? If so she should be understanding and leave it at that. If not I think you should tell her why and if she still does not understand..... well, TheByz is right it's your decision!
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May 18, 2010, 12:28 PM
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Did your wife use facebook as a way to have an affair? if so, why the hell does she still have an open account? I'm with you on deactivating it. It's your choice.
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May 18, 2010, 12:59 PM
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Good for you. Doing something proactive to help yourself during this rough time is a good idea. I have to say "so what?" about the game... its a game, your sanity is far more important. And I'm with ripley, I do not like those type of places.
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May 18, 2010, 02:52 PM
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jenkins09 she never used FB in the affair. She had an open time when she let all of it fly booze was heavily involved and she confessed everything that had happened. She brought up stuff from her childhood how it all led up till now. FB begged and begged and I reactivated my account as to convince people and my wife to stop asking questions.
I've gone 12 hrs off it and people are in real life asking why I'm not on, "I'm busy" is what I'm saying. People can't accept that. |
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#8
May 18, 2010, 03:16 PM
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i'm not sure why you feel so pressured to stay on fb. you can simply tell them you are no longer interested and keep telling them that until they stop bugging you. don't let yourself be so easily swayed by others. it will only harm you in the end. i deleted my account this week out of privacy concerns since i had a small incident of i.d. theft once.
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May 20, 2010, 11:56 AM
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I agree with Bloom, who cares what others think or have to say aobut you not bieng on FB any more. Just deactivate and tell thim you don't have any intrest in it any more and leave it at that, if they can't accept it , that's their prolbem. Do what's best for you!!!!!!!!!!!
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May 20, 2010, 01:17 PM
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IMO Facebook is all about being "popular" and having 584 friends. Those real friends you have there will be more than happy to contact you in any way you want, and accept your decision...if they don't they are not real friends. One real friend is worth more than 500 of the kind most facebook contacts usually are. Don't worry about what they say or do...take care of yourself first, and to *ell with them!
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May 20, 2010, 02:19 PM
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I applaud you for taking a step in making sure that you are safe and in doing so you will be a better person for doing so, but please remember that your wife must be allowed to make her own decision in rather she will continuing to use FB or not.
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May 20, 2010, 02:25 PM
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I was very active on Facebook for several months last summer, had nearly 1000 "friends" but then realized it wasn't where I wanted to spend my time online? One only has a limited amount of time in a day to spend online and I'd rather be here and other sites that are "helpful".
I deleted everyone except true friends and relatives and sent an email to those to tell them I wouldn't be on very often and that's it. I don't think you have to worry about the people asking "why", your "busy" is fine or tell them there are other sites you prefer to spend your time on besides purely social ones.
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May 20, 2010, 02:29 PM
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I am the same.... I only allow really good friends or family members onto my fb profile and I changed my setting to suit that fact.
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