[nomoretogive]

He wrote me an email this morning basically saying that I am not good enough for him. If I dont excercize like he does, if I dont train my dogs to be perfectly behaved, if I dont make over 30K a year, if I dont pluck my eyebrown so part of it doesnt look to thin... wow, I guess I should be happy I am not good enough for him. Id be running myself into the ground trying to please him.

Well, he is the one missing out because I have a winning personality, I am completely debt free (he is in over his head), I am of proper weight for a woman (I wear size 5s), I wont cheat or lie, and I know how to make a buck no matter where I go. What if he lost his job for some reason? What if he was badly injured in an accident that he couldnt work? I promised I would always be there for him even if he became handicapped and he says I am not good enough for him.

I am happy, arent I?

[Belle1979]

Sounds like you are better off without someone who doesn't seem to appreciate you xx

Sorry about what happened, nomoretogive. Your profile discussion of your relationship with your mother reminds me of the old saw, "No good deed goes unpunished."

You will be grieving for awhile.

Good luck.

[lynn P.]

Originally Posted by nomoretogive

He wrote me an email this morning basically saying that I am not good enough for him. If I dont excercize like he does, if I dont train my dogs to be perfectly behaved, if I dont make over 30K a year, if I dont pluck my eyebrown so part of it doesnt look to thin... wow, I guess I should be happy I am not good enough for him. Id be running myself into the ground trying to please him.

Well, he is the one missing out because I have a winning personality, I am completely debt free (he is in over his head), I am of proper weight for a woman (I wear size 5s), I wont cheat or lie, and I know how to make a buck no matter where I go. What if he lost his job for some reason? What if he was badly injured in an accident that he couldnt work? I promised I would always be there for him even if he became handicapped and he says I am not good enough for him.

I am happy, arent I?

If I were you I wouldn't cry for too long or maybe not all. What an arrogant controlling statement he gave to you. He sounds controlling and insulting. I'm sure he's not Mr Perfect. Don't even try to get back with him - I think you're too good for him!!! I think you should be HAPPY he's gone - good riddens. Good luck finding his Miss Perfect -who ever that is.

[eskielover]

You are definitely better off without that jerk. You are much too good for someone like that. Ugh.....that's the kind of guy who shouldn't be in any relationship ever. He will make some woman a horrible husband.....just glad it isn't you.

No one needs to put up with that kind of crap. That is definitely a spilled milk that isn't worth crying over. I think I would be dancing & singing about not being a part of his life anymore.

Proud that you have realized how much better you are than he is & realize that he wasn't the right person for you. No need to grieve over something that is that bad.....it's definitely a blessing, not anything to be sad about.

The right person will come along, if not, my philosophy was always that I was better off without anyone than with someone who wasn't right. Unfortunately, I didn't listen to my good sense & spent 33 years with the wrong person......but now I can truly say, I am much better off without anyone than with the wrong person.

[NuckingFutz]

That is so wonderful that you are away from this superficial loser! Now you can find someone that deserves you. He is not a good judge of character.

[nomoretogive]

Thank you all. Yes, I will be grieving for awhile but maybe not too long. I listed the things I had anxieties about him. His mother came to live with him, she is one nasty piece of work. He is dealing with an aggressive exwife who has already tired to turn his 16 yo daughter against me. He is in debt over his eye balls, he lives in an apt that doesnt allow dogs so we would have to move apts - a huge hassle in itself because he has a massive saltwater fish tank. His constant badgering to get out an run and do core excercizes. The daily grind of dealing with 2 teenagers and an angry mom.

Yeah, he is no catch and I am much better without all that stress in my life.

May you find peace, nomoretogive.

Won't stop it from hurting any, but if you ask me, he's the one not good enough for you.

Let someone appreciate you who is more worthy.

[Ithinkimpsycho]

Congrats.
At least you had someone.
I don't.
I never had.

Originally Posted by Ithinkimpsycho

Congrats.
At least you had someone.
I don't.
I never had.

This doesn't mean you never will.

AND, I must point out one thing I've learned in my life, from my own relationship mistakes, and from my mother's before me.

It's better to be alone than in a bad relationship. Does anyone remember when BJ Thomas sang "Even a bad love is better than no love..."? He was full of it.

[marjan]

oh god....who would say such a thing to anybody????
sweet hear you are better off without him and all the other women on the planet Earth are better off without him....tell him to go to Mars and find an alien to be with!!!!
Besides....I LOVE your positive attitudes....good for you....xoxoxo...

[xRockettex]

You sound already over him, which is good. You'll find someone better for you. Who likes you for who you are.

[nomoretogive]

Thank you all, yes, it is better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. "Tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" does not say "Tis better to love and let the one you love tell you that you are no good". Dont worry about not ever having someone, Ithinkimpsycho, because when you have someone and all they want to do is change you, well then... go to Mars and find an alien to be with!