Anger

Ihave anger issues...It is mostly against men. I slapped my boyfriend and he attacked me. Now we are separated. Where do I go from here? I do not want to see a counselor...But I feel thatI need anger management help.

I would say finding better coping skills are in order. I also applaud you for knowing this, just follow through and get the help you need. I used to be a volcano, I would erupt and wouldnt stop until I got it all out of me. I went to T and I am now in control of my anger, it doesnt control me.

I had to learn to put my feelings into words, be aware of transference, and own my behavior in relating to others. I hope you find some peace with your situation.

SpartaRay, there are many anger management articles and courses online.

One of my favorite sources is The Anger Workbook, by Lorrainne Bilodeau: http://www.amazon.com/Anger-Workbook...6970021&sr=8-2

Hey Sparta,

I have to agree with everyone...without therapy and support you're headed right down the same path no matter what the relationship is. I will say too that it is not your relationship that is your issue it is your anger, and if you walk away and get into another relationship it will just follow the same course as this one. Get help before you do anything else.

When you hit someone that is an attack, when they hit back it is usually defence, though it doesn't help the situation at all.

If it were me I would feel blessed to have a counsellor or other therapist....they are there to help not judge, and if they can't get you sorted in 13 sessions they usually will refer you on to someone with higher quals

Good luck

No one can do this for you. There are so many books to read about anger and what you should do. It will take a lot effort on your part. If you are going to have the life you want, I suggest you put everything else on hold, and begin the work to change your anger. You really have to begin now. This anger comes from your past and it is not your fault. First, you have to let the past go. Second, begin reading and put a plan into action. It will take concerted effort on your part to change, but change you must, if you want a happy life.