[thunderbear]

Well. Now my husband's best friend and who I considered family, is harraseing me on Facebook posting mean messages on my profile telling all MY friends how someone needs to help my husband out because he's doing it all by himself working and sick. And then he Imed me yesterday saying stuff like you think it's hot try working in it I brushed it off cause I was'nt sure how he meant it joking or what. So I said "yeah i was just out there playing baseball with my kid and I had to come in and wash my face because it was so hot" He said you really need to wash your ***. That pissed me off. Then he went on to say "How do you think R feels working all day?" I did'nt type anything out and he kept going on how i needed to get a job and help R out and that i did'nt kno the first thing about working and being in pain. And he was using colorful language. Like the "F" word. To me!! I have had it with all this crap. As if I'm not stressed out enough now I got this prick harrassing me. Me and my husband has done so much stuff for him. Even illegal stuff. Like when he was running from the cops he stayed here. We have let him live here for free when he did'nt have any place to go. We supplied him with his cigs and alchohol and all that. For like 2 months. We got our cable bill after he moved out and he had ordered 2 porno movies that costed $10 a piece. One day we left him in the house by himself so we could split wood. Well my husband came in to take a pain pill and seen that there was some missing and his friend stole 3 of them out of the bottle. Stole them!!!! And now he wants to get smart about me not working??? I'm tired of this drama. I never bother anyone, or talk bad about anyone and now I'm getting flak from someone who did'nt have a job or a place to live because in his words he was too onery to work. Now he has a job working 2-3 hours a day and he's so much better than me. I'm just tired of all this. I did'nt do anything to anyone. But i'm getting all the crap from people. Sorry for the ranting

I would ask your hubby if he has been complaining to his 'mate'.

[thunderbear]

Originally Posted by Tishie

I would ask your hubby if he has been complaining to his 'mate'.

You know, i'm thinking the exact same thing. If he was there's nothing wrong with it we all need a friend to vent to sometimes. But when that friend starts harrasing then my husband should have a talk with him about respect. Cause yesterday when he sent the IM, I told my husband about it. So it's not like he don't know. I have confided in my sister alot when my husband and I were arguing or I had a problem with him and not once did she treat him like that. I don't know. If all these problems keep up, I'm gong to have to leave. I have put up with his family for 9 years now. They used to tell him to leave me and his mom even lied on me and told him I cheated on him with the said best friend. And his brother is the worst. I'm so glad he's in the pen cause he used to call my husband and tell him what a WH word and a "B" I was. One time I got tired of all his family drama and told him I was done and his mom said "Don't you let that "B" take the f-ing baby with her he's YOUR son" Then his grandmother used to call my grandmother and tell her I never cleaned and my house looked like a bunch of "N" words lived in it. Yeah she said that. They have been doing this since the 3rd day me and my husband we're dating. I have never been so insulted and fought with as I have in the past 9 years. In my hometown, everyone likes me. They know me. They know what kind of person I am. Now I have to deal with his best friend harrassing me on Facebook. I already deleted him and if he continues to be harrasing I'm going to block him. Or something.

[jenkins09]

Your husband should definitely confront his "friend." Even if your husband did talk to him about your relationship, he has no right to speak to you like that, its abusive. I hope your day is going better.

Sorry this is going on, thunder. Never seems to end.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hey thunderbear

Time to get out, go home to your home town where people are nice and they treat you with kindness and respect. Tell your husband that his lover beat you up on IM and you've had enough! One of the first things abusers do is isolate their victim from their family & friends.

And he can't keep your son. And if that is the language they use then you and your son are better off out of there and away from them. What example is this setting for kids? It's just teaching them to treat you badly and to treat any female they get into a relationship with, the way you are being treated. Just not on.

Oooh I swear if I were there I'd drag you out of that place...but would you leave? I just don't think it's healthy and I don't think the way his mate spoke to you is at all acceptable; but only you can make the decision and the move...

Loving thoughts,

Rhia

[thunderbear]

Thanks Rhi and Byz. Yeah when husband came home yesterday, I asked him if he had been confiding in his friend about our problems. He said no that it was hard to talk to his friend cause he's got himself messed up on pills. Well I showed him what his friend wrote. It made him mad so he called the friend. Friend tried to say he was tired of seeing my husband get walked over and was fed up because I did'nt work. My husband reminded him the he has always lived off of some poor woman and no i did'nt walk over him and he needed to keep his opinions to himself and that i said he was'nt allowed around me again. Of couse his friend started blaming me and saying I control my husband. Yeah he got mad so my husband just hung up on him. i guess he'l grow up or he won't I don't care. To be honest if he's messed up on pills, I don't want to be around him anyway.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Originally Posted by thunderbear

It made him mad so he called the friend. Friend tried to say he was tired of seeing my husband get walked over and was fed up because I did'nt work. My husband reminded him the he has always lived off of some poor woman and no i did'nt walk over him and he needed to keep his opinions to himself and that i said he was'nt allowed around me again

Just when you're ready to walk out they do something like this and stand up for you...but let me tell you this..

About an abuser

When I was about 6 or so I was walking along a laneway and a boy threw a brick at my back it hit me hard and hurt. I was walking to my grandmothers house and I was crying. My brother saw and and demanded to know "What are you crying for?" I told him what had happened, and he went straight down and belted that boy for hitting me with a brick he told him "Don't ever hit her again, she's my sister and if anyone's going to hit her it will be me!". I thought wow! he'd never stuck up for me before. As he walked past me he turned an punched me so hard in the shoulder and said "Thats for causing me a problem".

And he never stopped abusing me even to this day he abuses me verbally, mentally and emotionally. I am at the stage now where I just have nothing to do with any of them. When my dad died, my entire family died...

Whatever happens thunder, please respect yourself ,

Loving thoughts,

Rhia