[not2exist]

Is there any people in here that are alone & happy?

[Yoda]

I am living with my son but I don't have a boyfriend and I am happy.

Do you want to be in a relationship? Are you happy?

[sanityseeker]

I am 56 and single and happy about it. I am not good being coupled. Way too much pressure to attend to someone else more than I feel able to most of the time. I like my own company and the freedom of choice that goes with it.

[sanityseeker]

I should also add that my conviction to stay single has a lot to do with my symptoms. I was married for 16 years and it was hard on him and the relationship so I really don't want to put someone else through all that or me either for that matter. It is much easier to manage my symptoms without him around to witness or react even when he tried to be supportive.

[not2exist]

I'm in a long term "unofficial" marriage. I have just come to the awakening that all I do, and I mean 247, it trying to keep her happy at a very large personal & financial sacrifice. How it how come to this, the "merger" I do not know. I feel obligated to do so & for at least 2 years now we have not been living a life together. I've simple been helping her live hers.

I came across this when I woke up today. It is like the blinders came off. Everything is hers & I have nothing. Exp. I was going to finally order my new cell phone jammer & a code logger. But then I agreed to cancel that thought & buy her a new Sirius radio as hers broke & she needs one for a road trip to a car show she is going to this month. Then I found out not only does she get paid, but also has her own funds to get what she needs. I have been trained very well by her, but today I have woken up & now I am "falling down."

[byfnvy]

I personally never want to get into a relationship. I feel uncapable of loving someone else, and the thought of starting a family is just out of the question. I don't think people like me should ever do any of that stuff.

[NuckingFutz]

I love being alone and having my personal space. If I found someone, they would also have to be someone who likes living alone and their own company but someone who likes sharing too.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Originally Posted by not2exist

I'm in a long term "unofficial" marriage. I have just come to the awakening that all I do, and I mean 247, it trying to keep her happy at a very large personal & financial sacrifice.

Then I found out not only does she get paid, but also has her own funds to get what she needs. I have been trained very well by her, but today I have woken up & now I am "falling down."

Dear not2,

I really think that you should do something about being in such a relationship, if there is all give and no take then it is very imbalanced and you will end up broke and alone.

If I were you I would honestly & truly start making her put her hand in her pocket to pay for things if it's a two way street then she shouldn't complain.

No one deserves to be a sugar daddy, things are meant to be balanced and shared, not lumped onto one person to the other like a kitty...and in all honestly Kitty Cats are the only ones allowed to be totally one sided in that regard...

Either get her to pay her way or put your size 12 directly on her well taken care of bot bot and send her out the door,

Rhian

[sanityseeker]

not2.... I agree with Rhian. You do need to take a stand before the situation gets the better of you.

By the way.... welcome to PC.

[not2exist]

Thanks you people. I would make her pay for her side but she is to broke. I have only been able to get her to work a part time job & I had to technically break up with her just to get her to do that.

The last date I had was in 1983. Back then, I still scared people. I was fortunate that those I thought I loved knew better than to stick around.

There will always be a void in my life. I will take it to the crematorium.