Do long distance relationships workor is this even a long distance "relationship"

I don't want to be a brat or anything, and I know everyone has their opinions, but I feel that it is unfair to say that long distance relationships never work or fail 99% of the time, and to consider these things proven facts. There are plenty of long distance relationships that work, several books published, and websites that you can visit to help you navigate LDR's. I just want to remind everyone to try to not be unnecessarily negative and to remember not all people or relationships are the same. If both people are truly in love and are truly willing to work really hard to make a relationship work plus are able to handle all the emotions and stress, then long distance relationships can and do work.

I really hope I didn't offend anyone with this post, I just felt the need to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening, everyone

i like this because you are really in love ,,,,enjoy your feelings honey

but mostly they dont work....so why take the risk!

I think its unfair for people to give false hope to someone who may get very emotionally involved just so they can say I support you on this. That's irresponsible and not good for the person. Those of us who know the reality of a LDR and any reasonably educated person can figure it out the risks, know the odds are slim, the distance works against you like swimming upstream. That doesn't mean we don't want it to work out for them, but worse than telling the truth that they might not like is purposely giving them false hope, that's just cruel.

they are hard. i too was in one for 3 years until i finally got up the courage and money to move.

we used to talk on the phone, webcam, nd when we would come see eachother it was wonderful and sad all at once.

i have been with him a total of 5 years. i am so glad i did what i did, but im not going to lie, its only gotten harder. this is our case, not every ldr is going to be like this, im only saying what i kno.

we do not plan on giving up tho. i believe if you nd ur partner r determined to work on it, regardless of what happens, than itll work out.

it sounds like you nd him are both very excited nd in love. i say go for it!

I would advise you to go but go cautiously. I had a long distance relationship fail, but really, I'd have gotten into the relationship if we'd known each other in person, and it still wouldn't have worked. That's always the risk you take when you chance your heart on someone, and it honestly fails quite often - long distance or not. However, long distance relationships do have their extra issues and even zones which are 'too comfortable' which you have to watch out for. The perks are in getting to know and love someone's personality and mind without the physical stuff getting in the way early on. I'll probably be alone on this one, but I actually think there are some instances where a relationship can work out better if it begins online. You -have- to really verbalize your feelings and use good communication skills there. Or else it won't work.

Now, my current relationship is long distance, and I think of it as a major success. We knew each other for about as long as you and your guy have (were best friends for ages), and have been together over four years now. During this time period we've visited for over a month at a time multiple times, met each other's families, have computers in our rooms which run skype constantly, and have gotten to know each other inside and out. Before I even considered a romantic relationship, I felt on some level (not sexually at all) that this guy was like my soul mate. We were very different, but we still clicked and identified in some pretty deep way.

And, well, it hasn't been easy a lot of the time. My first bit of advice is to not get too involved in the relationship until you've had a chance to meet in person. And I wouldn't consider that until you've had a couple months over webcam together. Until then, speak/see each other often, but keep it somewhat casual and exploratory (the way a lot of relationships start). As much as we cared for each other, there are elements of a person you just don't know until you spend time together in person. For us, this process was amazing and we found that we got along even better together than we did online. Be safe and smart about it though. If things hadn't looked safe at the airport, I'd have turned right back around and marched back on that plane. Personally, I'd never fully invest my heart without that time together in person to really get a feel for him.

Then there are a ton of little things. Like making sure he's on the same wavelength you are with wanting a relationship. There are issues of safety early on which I briefly mentioned, and would never not take into consideration just because of my feelings or trust. Keeping the lines of communication open and finding things to do together/ways of doing them can also be challenging. (I know I'm probably forgetting a lot, but I'll try to fill in the gaps later if need be.) I guess, finally, most people eventually want these relationships to culminate in the real world. If you guys don't see any way that could work in your lives, then I probably wouldn't even try it. Otherwise, good luck to ya!

aw wow it shows does it ?

thanks for ur imput, i hope all is going good for u both. Its good someone i dont know picked up on the in love part too

Falling hard .... fell hard ... ? Well yes hella hard. After a disagreement last week (nothing serious hence disagreement rather than argument) i realised that without him as my best friend or my whatever he is ... i dont have a lototherwise

http://psychcentral.com/search/?Matc...ship&x=30&y=12

Longdistance isn't easy, and I hate to be harsh, but doesn't have a high sucess rate,

They key part to any long distance realtionship is communication, since your not there physically everyday it is easy to let communication slide or let issues get in the way of the relationship.

Schedule a time where you can talk at least once a day, once you loose communication it is hard to get it back.

I think long distance can work if both parties are very dedicated and aware of what long distance relationships involve, and that it isn't simple, and there are going to be rough patches.

I wish you the best of luck fireyfox.