Trigger for illegal drug use Okay I am Spilling It All!

When I moved here in March, I had a day laborer help me. Occasionally I woule let him sleep on my couch if I needed money for my phone bill. He seemed okay until he hooked up with the one legged crack ***** (and I do mean that literally, those are facts). In the span of 12 hours he spent the money he promised me on crack so he could have sex with the woman, my phone service got turned off for non payment, he got fired for showing up to work high. Over the last several days he has brought people here to smoke crack when I am not home. When I come home he has to unlock the door. There are people here I do not know. I told my sister about this. She paid my phone bill with a credit card through my phone carrier's website. When this guy leaves, I am putting all his stuff out. I have a new deadbolt and I know how to install it. I want peace and serenity back into my life and this is the final hurdle. Feedback anyone?

Change your locks now I promise you from seeing what happened with my sisters loser of a bf he sold everything she had for crack money and there are holes in every single wall in her house, cuppoard doors are off and split and splintered and she is abused...TRIGGERED me!



Rhian

Oh I am not telling him when I kick him to the curb. He will just find his stuff outside with no way for him to get in. I will be pretty busy this week and it will be nice to come home to my 2 cats. I like living alone.

I totally endors your decision. Make sure it happens today. Else call the police and get him locked up.
Facts are:
You don't really know him
You Don't like him
He's not paying you
He's interfering in your life
He's negatively impacting in your life

Time to put yourself first girlfriend! You're not getting anything out of this setup, so get out. Stop being the good samaritan - you have enough on your plate!

((HUGS and Strength to you!))

****er sure is a homebody for a homeless guy! Grrr! Thanks for the support. I do know this guy's ex boss well though. The guy on my couch would rather run than fight. Thanks for the support and advice. Will keep you posted.

I definitely agree with all posts above - install this deadbolt ASAP and hopefully you will find the peace that you deserve. This guy shouldn't be taking advantage of you and your home like this. Hope you'll keep us updated on the situation.

You lead such an adventuresome life, NuckingFutz.

Yeah I agree on that one. It is time to retire from my adventuresome life. I'm getting to old for this ****! Drug deal going on down the hall right now. Sigh! Hope he goes down there with them. I would call the cops but that is too much adventure for me. My main objective is just to get him and his stuff outta here for good. I figure they are dumb enough to get caught on their very own real soon.

I agree with the others. This person has put you into a terrible situation. Get him out as fast as you can. What if he somehow draws police attention to your house? If there is crack in your house it could be a really terrible situation for you. Can you be sure that there is no crack hidden in your house? Change those locks quick! You are doing the right thing by putting his things outside while he isn't home. You never know, he could react violently to being kicked out, so have the phone in your hand and the police on speed dial when he arrives to find his things in the yard. Good luck!

((((( NuckingFutz )))))

I think you should not let people into your apartment for at least a month. I mean NOBODY. Start putting out the f*** off vibes so all of these weirdos leave you alone!!! Maybe everyone will just think you are mean and quit trying to bother you and mooch off you.

Why does he have a key to your place and/or tell him to leave, NOW, and/or ask the police to help escort him out? What do you mean, "when" he leaves? Why would he leave when he now has no job to go to, never had a place to stay and is doing fine freeloading off you?

I am not willing to go through yet another confrontation. When this guy gets up off the couch and walks out the door long enough to make sure I get everything of his out and change tne lock. He has a day labor job tomorrow so that is when it will happen. On another note, I generally get along with people. The complex I live in accepts public housing vouchers. So far I have learned that the people here are what I call homeless people with a roof over their head. They do not go out to dinner or a movie. When I move in March I can move to a complex that is much better. They allow felons here. Most decent apartments don't allow felons. I will not talk to the people here anymore!

Okay, now I need your emotional support. Everything is set for tomorrow. He has nothing of mine and have assessed it will take me 20 minutes to get his crap out the door. There is another website called crackreality.com. I have a thread going on there as well. After I change the lock life changes for the better. I do anticipate that my levels of anxiety will go up at first. I suppose I will need support the most tomorrow. Thanks for the support that you have already giuen me. Hugs, NF

Stay strong xx

Hang in there - you are a strong person and can follow through with your plan. And you know it's the right thing and for the better.

Lots of love ((NF))

Good luck, Futz. I hope it goes alright. Let us know. Also, don't be afraid to call the cops if he tries to start anything when he cannot get back in.

Hope I do not have to call the cops. He's got illegal pipes in his stuff. After his stuff is out, he is no longer my problem. I am going to try and rest as soon as this is over with. Going over my self care list now. Hopefully my next post will contain the words "he's out".

You can do it! Be strong and hold your ground. You know you are doing the right thing and there is no other way. Be very careful and let us know how it goes.

Best of luck in getting this guy out of there. I hope everything goes smoothly tomorrow and he'll be history. Stay strong (((NF)))

the hour is at hand. I changed the deadbolt. Threw all his stuff in bags and are outside. He did not have a key, but he could have made me one without me knowhng it. I just took my daily dose of klonopin. I am terrified but I think that is in my own mind. Going for my walk now that he is gone. Hopefully I will be much calmer whem the meds kick in. Wish me luck!

Couchman's number could not be blocked. Just told him he could not live here and hung up. I am in no contact mode with him now and forever. He said "whatever" so that was anti-climactic. I am doing selfcare the rest of the day.

Does he know you want him out? Will his bags being in the hall, be a surprise to him? Just thinking if he doesn't know then attach a note to the door. If he does want to cause problems, then threaten to call the police and I'm sure with his drug use problem, he'll run. Good for you and take good care of yourself ((NF)).

We talked about him moving at the end of the month. He said he would take care of the phone bill last Tuesday. That did not happen so my sister pay the bill to restore service. When you are bipolar, phone service is not a luxury. I did tell him before he hung up that he could not do drugs in my apartment and having him live here is a violation of the lease. I know of plenty of places that would love to have the "candyman" come live with him because they do drugs as well. It's a sick way of living, but hey, it's all they care about.

Good job, NuckingFutz.

Be safe.