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Great idea! He is now gone but his stuff is still there. Tomorrow I contact legal aid. Depending on what they say I will contact my landlord in writing, and contact non-emergency police. I feel stronger and more hopeful. He got the legal advice about being a tennant from a lady down the hall who was trying to get their "unauthorized tennants" out. Cops came out and she said they paid rent. That is where she blew it. This is where he got the idea of calling himself a tenant. He hasn't paid rent. I want to be strong and prepared for anything. I want to beat this guy, to prove to myself that I am stronger than any domineering drug thug that needs four walls and a roof over his head. Putting it all together, he targets disabled women. sorry I am needing so much support and feedback, but this a major battle for me. I will keep you updated.

No doubt it is helping to debrief the steps as this drama continues to unfold. Good on you for coming for support. It sounds like you are finally on the home stretch. Don't hesitate calling the police especially if your safety is at risk.

Thanks. When I talked to the domestic violence people, they said an "unauthorized occupant" can't get me evicted if I was coerced, threatened or intimidated to let him stay. Said they would provide a court advocate for me if needed. Neighbor said the guy asked her to spend the night and go back to the Salvation Army tomorrow. I hope that is true and I am not letting my guard down. Thanks for reading this.

You're doing really well Nuc, don't let this moron get the better of you. And another thing I would do is if he came as a day labourer from an agency, call the agency and tell them the whole story. You may be able to stop him from being able to target others with a disability.

You don't have his stuff there any longer do you? He was never a tenant and he didn't give you money; on top of that you have this whole journal logging the events and how he has been acting. It is a legal journal which can be used to support your claim that he has been drugging and using your home as a place for crack use.

Keep strong,

Rhia

Yep, his stuff is still outside. Hope it will be gone soon. No, he did not pay rent. As a matter of fact I lost money...he eats a lot. Not taking further action unless needed. I found out last night from his friend that he's behind on his child support. I thought people got in trouble these days for that. Have not seen him today. Not taking any action unless he does because I have other things to do. I can't and won't stop my life over this.

Woke up exhausted. I guess being terrified takes a lot out of me. Slept most of the day. Did not know how much terror I was feeling. Most of his stuff is gone. Still feeling scared. I guess this situation is so complicated. When I talked to a counselor on the phone she helped a little. She said drug users usually do not call police for custody of a Section 8 apartment. They are the ones that are escorted off the property in shiney bracelets. I still feel scared. Guess that is my PTSD. The "traffic" around here has dropped off significantly though. I do not open the door to anyone. Only when I am going somewhere do I open it. Guess I just need some hugs from you all and reassuring words...please?

((((((((((NuckingFutz))))))))))) BIG HUGS!!! You did good girl! You can breath a big big sigh of relief that you stood your ground, honoured yourself and the bully didn't get through your defenses. YOU ARE AWESOME!!!

I hope you are able to sleep more soundly tonight. One day at a time. Give yourself time to recover from this. It will all be okay again soon. Take good care.

((((( NuckingFutz )))))

Hope soon this episode will be a distant memory.

(((( NuckingFutz )))))

Thank you all!

((((NF)))) Well done - see, you are stronger than you initially thought!

Yeah, I guess I am good at research. I found a lot of ways around the jerk's claim that he is a tenant. But was told people like him do not contest things like this because they are always looking for their next hit. So with the information I have and your and my family's support, each day gets easier. Sometimes I will be doing things around the apartment and it just feels cozy and peaceful. I am sure I will run into him but not worried just now.

((((((((((((((((NuckingFutz))))))))))))))))

You have done so well! I'm sure that we are all very proud of how you have handled yourself and got yourself through this...

Just enjoy your peace and privacy now...



Rhiannon

Thanks! Tonight was the best because I got sent the video from my neices wedding so I popped some corn and watched it! Both of them made beautiful brides. I have never seen such happy brides before. And it is so peaceful here now. This was the best night in a long time. Thanks for caring and all the support.

I opened up my house to a person like that when I was living with my husband in California. I had been in the medical hospital with anorexia problems & the lady in my hospital room had a son that needed a room to live in.......what a fool I was thinking he would be ok. Ended up being a drug adict too. Stole several pieces of jewelry. When the guy was out of the house, my husand went through a suitcase & found his seiko watch...he didn't look for anything else that ended up missing...along with many of my meds. The final straw was that we had told him that all automobiles were off limits & he stole my husband's truck & took off with it. When we realized it was missing, we called the police. They said that if we called it in stolen & they caught the guy, they would shoot to kill if he caused any problems....I said "go ahead". He ended up recking the truck out in the desert somewhere....can't even remember now, but that was an immediate kick out of the house.....he never caused us any problems with kicking him out. The police were after him for many other things it seems as he ended up having some mail sent to our house....

I wasn't so quick to let anyone stay in my house after that point....learned the hard way also.

Glad this has worked out well for you in the end. Somehow I missed reading the last few posts before I wrote my initial reply (before editing...lol).

Wonderful to have your apartment back to yourself.....no one enteres through the door other than you & your closest friends from now on.....I'm sure of that after all of this.

Job well done in getting the right ammunition to protect yourself....good work

Thank you. He never asked to stay and told him to leave several times. I just got sick of it. He was one of those people who ACTS nice at first. Did this to 2 other women that I know of before abandoning his wife and children. Does not have a criminal history that I know of. I also feel free to date. I much prefer my lesbian friends hanging out to him and his crackhead friends making deals and being nasty. Use to hide things so they would not get stolen. I think he might have traded some of my foodstamps for drugs. Not trying to judge anyone out there who does drugs, I was just so mad at his behavior once I saw what was behind the fake nice guy mask. He even had 2 of the women going with the sex and the drugs. As a matter of fact, I think he is staying with one of them tonight. But if he bothers me, the cops get a call, the landlord gets a call and the housing program gets a call. I bet there are a lot of people out there that prey on women with disabilities. I also bet this guys luck runs out soon.

Why the brooding, NF?

You know I have been asking myself the same question. Guess I am still working through my anger and also wish he would come pick up his stuff. Looks trashy by my front door. Also trying to give up tobacco and feeling irritable because of it.

I imagine seeing his stuff is like a constant reminder. Maybe you need to put it in the trash and be done with him. Good luck with kicking the tabacco. Do something fun to try to pull yourself out of the funk. Maybe dance around the apartment rejoicing in the fact that it is allllll yours. Wishing you well.

Good luck with the nicotine purge.

I can do this!

Rooting for you, NF.

Thanks. It does make one irritable. Just came back from taking the trash out. I've locked my door because I saw 5 guys FIVE go into the one legged womans 1 bedroom apartment with beer. That is trouble! That means they have more than just beer in there. My lights are off. Oh, and one of them was the guy I kicked out. Ha! And it is peaceful and quiet where I am. That situation is a disaster waiting to happen. I am so glad I kicked him out!

You have such an adventuresome life, NuckingFutz.

Not anymore.