[wingsoflove]

hi im kerri, i am a 19 year old girl who recently broke up for the first time. i apologize is this is the wrong forum but i didnt see where else to post it. everything at first was great the suddently i saw him less and less to the point where two weeks would pass and we would only text. after three months i ended it but was i wrong to? me and him were supposed to finally hang out (after many broken promises) and i didnt get a call or anything. i felt stood up so i changed the reltionship status on facebook to single. two days later he puts a status that his phone was broken, but he doesnt message me or anything. finally after a week of me going crazy i text him and he answeres and then later said he forgot to answer but he wasnt sure how he felt about me because he liked me but he wasnt sure. so i said whatever just end it pretty much and i cant help but think we're not done, its only been two months and im still wishing that he'll come by and say sorry and just try. its all i wanted was for him to show he cared enough to try but he didnt. we never argued, everytime i tried to talk he wouldnt respond and just said it wasnt a big deal. Im so confused, because iw nat to know how I can be better .

[AmDaws]

Hey, you don't need to be better. If someone is treating you like that, he isn't worth the emotional roller coaster. I don't want to give the impression that three months isn't a big deal, but be thankful this didn't drag on to two years.

You didn't do anything wrong. Guys can have a hard time explaining their feelings and thoughts. It doesn't mean you're a bad girlfriend or you need to be better. It just means he wasn't the right guy for you. Three months is hard to get over, you've put time and effort into starting a relationship. You weren't wrong in ending a relationship that didn't make you happy, but you also have to remember that you aren't going to just "get over it". You will, believe me. But it's going to take time.

Just remember that you haven't done anything wrong and you are not a bad girlfriend. You should never have to make yourself better for a guy. The right person will love you no matter what.

[Belle1979]

Originally Posted by wingsoflove

hi im kerri, i am a 19 year old girl who recently broke up for the first time. i apologize is this is the wrong forum but i didnt see where else to post it. everything at first was great the suddently i saw him less and less to the point where two weeks would pass and we would only text. after three months i ended it but was i wrong to? me and him were supposed to finally hang out (after many broken promises) and i didnt get a call or anything. i felt stood up so i changed the reltionship status on facebook to single. two days later he puts a status that his phone was broken, but he doesnt message me or anything. finally after a week of me going crazy i text him and he answeres and then later said he forgot to answer but he wasnt sure how he felt about me because he liked me but he wasnt sure. so i said whatever just end it pretty much and i cant help but think we're not done, its only been two months and im still wishing that he'll come by and say sorry and just try. its all i wanted was for him to show he cared enough to try but he didnt. we never argued, everytime i tried to talk he wouldnt respond and just said it wasnt a big deal. Im so confused, because iw nat to know how I can be better .

Hi Kerri

This is the right place to post and there are many people here that will help you through all the emotions and feelings you are going through at the moment (As they did and continue to do for me).

To me it sounds like you did the right thing, he was distant from you and trully you deserve better by the sounds of it.
It's hard when your mind is on the other person all of the time and what you could have done to change the outcome.
It takes time to heal, as horrible as it is, time really does work the best.

You are young and will find someone who really loves you for you, wants to spend every waking moment with you and wants to ensure your happiness

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hey there Kerri

I would count my lucky stars that he is gone; there is nothing wrong with you at all and I think you did the right thing. Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to be in one? You've saved yourself a lot of heartache and grief and I'm being honest here if you had stayed in such a relationship he would have eventually taken advantage of you and that would have made you feel much worse.

Congratulations Kerri you are better, better for not allowing this guy to rule your life and ruin you for any decent relationship; you should be really proud of yourself,

Rhian

Welcome to the community, wingsoflove. You are grieving: http://helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm

Love yourself.

[Pittsburghgrl22]

Oh sweetheart.. I know exactly how you are feeling. I just broke up (again) with the guy I have been on and off with for a year. I am 23 and he is 27, but he is so emotionally immature. All he's ever done is hurt me, but I love him. This past time it hurt worse than the rest. Because I told him this was it. If he was ending it now, then I can't ever do it again. And the kicker is, we work together, in the same office. it has been a week and the first day I spent almost entirely in bed crying. I know I'm better off without someone who is unable to treat me lthe way I deserve. But the past 2 days anytime I'm alone I just cry. It is SO hard to give up someone you love, or even someone you just really really like a lot. I have bipolar and that doesn't make it any easier.

Feel free to PM me if you want someone to talk to. <3