Should I be bothered that my boyfriends brother doesn't like me?

I've been dating my boyfriend, John, for about 7 months and in the last few months we've been together I've been told by John and his mom that Mark the brother has a very low tolerance of anyone or anything so I didn't think anything of him not being very friendly to me. Then last weekend John's brother Mark makes a comment about not liking me to their sister. As far as I know I haven't done anything to make Mark dislike me and that kind of irriates me just because to my knowledge I've done nothing to deserve him disliking me. My boyfriend says his brother not liking me doesn't bother him. My question is, should I be worried or bothered that the brother doesn't like me?

If your BF and his mother say Mark "has a very low tolerance of anyone or anything" - then I wouldn't worry about him. He doesn't sound like a very nice person, if he forms opinions before getting to know someone first. I wouldn't worry about it or try to get him to like you.

Hello, maymie. Your friend's brother has a problem. If you let it bother you, there are two problems. You are not defined by what another thinks.

Be well.

its his problem not yours,d ont worry

((((maymie))))

I honestly think it is a mind game/power play. If his brother hung out with him more before you met and started dating then it's just sour grapes.

Or as I said he plays games with peoples minds, he hopes to make you in some way afraid of him...don't let it touch you, you aren't going out with him so you have no reason to be concerned...I don't think much of the sister for telling you either...that was b itchy

Rhi

I'd worry about the sister. Did she tell you about Mark's comment to her? How thoughtful of her, just what you want to hear, NOT! It doesn't sound like a very positive family altogether and I'd be a little leery of John, even, if he grew up with this crew.

If you aren't around Mark, I wouldn't worry about it but if you are going to be places where Mark and the mother, sister, rest of the family are; I wouldn't like it, would not feel welcome, no matter what John "said". How is it that he is around this wonderful family and/or doesn't speak up for you and/or that they're ALL talking about you behind your back when the other family members don't know you?

I'm not an expert in this but its not about what the brother thinks. Your bf is the only opinion that matters your bf is going to be with you if he cares about you and thats all that should matter. neednt worry about people that arent in the relationship.

I would say that if you don't have a reason to mistrust what your bf tells you, then believe him when he says it doesn't bother him. You are not there to impress his brother.....I wouldn't worry about what the brother thinks. Just be your wonderful self and concentrate on your relationship with your bf

No, you shouldn't let it bother you. He seems to be a misanthrope, and since you're human, you just fall into his category of dislike for all things two-legged and breathing.

Just make sure that you don't let him disrespect you.

I agree that if your BF isn't affected by his brother's feelings, then it isn't important in the grand scheme of things; at least as far as your relationship is concerned. I know how you feel though- it's hurtful and whether we like it or not, we'd all like to have harmonious relationships with the people who are important to the ones we love. I am polite to my my husband's mother and I give her no reason to dislike me but she does anyway. There's really nothing I can do about it so I try not to think about it. My husband and I have been together for 12 years and happy so really, isn't that what's important? If I could change things, I would but since I can't, I'm not going to stress myself out about it. If you and your BF are on good terms and happy, his brother may or may not come around. If he does, great, if not, it's his issue and not yours.

Umm...No.

not at all, he may be acting that way due the attention from John being more put on you than himself...I know my sister would really dislike my bf for no apparent besides just pure jealousy...dont let it get to you its just immaturity