relationships are not fun sometimes espec when they come back

So recently my baby daddy(who by the way was diagnosed as a sociopath) contacted me after 4 years of not seeing him. He is married and he wanted to get back together I said no and told his wife. At first she was mad at me and said quit wrecking her marriage but she found out he was talking to other exes as well. He finally found one to take him in (he can't be alone and has to have a woman take care of him) so the wife contacted me and said sorry bcz I was just trying to help well he has been saying really nasty nasty things about be and I asked him to stop and I got treated with mean coldhearted replies which means the talk is going to continue. I know I need to not worry what he says cuz its lies but it hurts and bothers me when I only warned his wife and said no. So then his wife wanted to talk to me and I didn't know what to do so I did and we had a very nice polite conversation. She is a little more angry and hurt than I am as I had been done years ago. She left a message for this new girl warning her of what he was saying to both of us. when he wanted me back he was also telling his wife he wanted her and telling this girl he wanted her and who knows how many more. We both know she won't listen but at least its out there I guess the thing I'm having a hard time with is why I'm being hated on when I was not around for years and just cuz I said no and said my feelings I am all these horrible words and things that never happened is getting told to people. I know I shldnt care but it hurts and bothers me. I do have to remember he is a sociopath and nothing he says is worth anything but this is someone I loved for years before I found that out and residual feelings are creeping around my head. Trying so hard to just let it go.

You are strong and sensible
I think you know the answers - you wrote them in your post...he is a sociopath and nothing he says is worth anything.
Words and lies hurt... but they are just words xx

it sounds like he's mad because you exposed his lying to his wife and trying to be with these other women. ugh, stay away from him--he sounds quite ill. you deserve much, much better.

Just ignore it bridgie, he's a sociopath and his lies are part of his personality. walk away with your head held high

Thanx all for your replies. I do need to be like say whatever it doesn't matter anyway and he can be mad. He was so wrong in what he was up to. Maybe even my feelings are for this current fling. I want to just warn people to at least keep an eye out for signs bcz they are there. Thanx all again for your input and support. I apreciate it