[ladylazarus]

I have become highly suspicious that my boyfriend is sneaking either my seroquel or my klonopin. He seemed kind of out of it early in the evening. I asked him if he was okay and he said he was just really tired. Later tonight he started getting noticeably clumsy and his eyes started to look more sleepy. By night time he was slightly stumbling his way to the bedroom holding onto things for balance and than passed out on the bed above the covers with the lights still on. This has happened once before exactly the same way. That time I straight up asked him what he took. He completely denied taking anything.

Maybe I should start counting my pills? If some come up missing I have no idea how to approach this situation with out it turning into a fight or worse he might flat out deny it again.

I just don't know what to do. Any advice

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hello ladylazarus,

I was going to suggest counting the pills but you can also remove them from where they are and put them somewhere else. Both of those measures will ensure that none go missing..unless of course he hunts for them...

Hope this is sorted out for you soon...he sounds like he needs help

[NuckingFutz]

A good hiding place is inside a tampax box or the bottle slipped inside one of your shoe. Plants are also good for this purpose. Sounds like he's not dealing with something.

[ladylazarus]

Originally Posted by Rhiannonsmoon

he sounds like he needs help

Originally Posted by NuckingFutz

Sounds like he's not dealing with something.

You both are so right. His father is currently in hospice dying of huntington's disease. His grandfather died from HD as it is hereditary and the children of someone with HD has a 50% chance of also having it. I can't imagine what this all must feel like for him. When I talk to him about it it's like he's completely cut of his emotions from the matter to cope with it. I think it's because if he aloud himself to really feel it it would break him down but he can't continue to keep pain this big bottled up. I've tried many times to convince him to see a therapist to help him work through all this. Every time he tells me he'll look into it but never actually does. It would make me so happy if he did.

[NuckingFutz]

Your approach is so right on in working to get him professional help. What he's doing is compounding the problem as there are with both meds nasty withdrawls. Maybe suggest he get his own meds for now and monitor them. Perhaps it will make the suggestion of therapy easier. I am so sorry you both are going through this. Keep posting for support...there are tons of suggestions and emotional support to be had. I follow this thread.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

(((( ((((ladylazarus)))) ))))

Huntingtons Chorea is probably the worst of all the neuro diseases. And if both parents have it then the risk is much greater than 50% it's closer to 75-85%.

I really think he should have the test done because it will pass on to children. If he has already had the test and knows the outcome, he could very possibly by in a state of anxiousness and quite possibly panic. He may want to escape it?

I really wish you a ton of luck with this hon because it is very challenging

Rhiannon

[ladylazarus]

Thank you for all your support. It is indeed a devastating disease with no cure. Fortunately his mother does not have it. I have brought up the idea of him getting the test but he really doesn't want to know. I don't blame him. He must be so scared and if the test where possitive it's like receiving a death sentence. It would change the whole course and understanding of his life. Not to mention I would know that I would have to watch the person I wanted to grow old with suffer and deteriorate before my very eyes. I would know that my future holds heartache and immense pain.

When we first got together 7 years ago he slowly warned me about the situation. His mother and I have a close relationship and she once told me that if I couldn't handle it she would understand and never hold it against me. I love him so much I have to remind myself that if you truly love someone you wouldn't leave them because of a possible illness. I mean look at me. I'm bipolar and was hospitalized for a psychosis and he stood by my side the entire time. Visited everyday. Didn't miss a single day and when I came home he took such good care of me. We have discussed children and both of us would be okay with adopting. The thing I can't help thinking is if he took the test and it was negative we could have children of or own. all I can say is that It's a very complex situation. On a side note. I really wish he would get the help and guidance from a professional I feel he desperately needs to cope.

My mantra has always been we will cross that bridge when we come to it but I feel us getting closer to that bridge. I admit that sometimes when I think about it all it scares worries me.

[Jenn1fer82]

Yes you should count your pills. It is only then you'll be able to find out the pills. If he's not stealing your meds then you can move on from there and figure out what is wrong with him. If you don't figure out what is wrong now then things can only get worst. Face the battle now to dodge the war.