roller coaster

I swear one minute im the happiest man on earth talking to what i thought was my true love. And than the next thing i know she's telling me she got with another boy. How much longer till im old enough to drink and smoke legally? cuz i need something to frikin make m feel better.

Well, I wouldn't go with the drinking and smoking, they don't work. What's that saying, "To find true love and the Prince you first have to kiss a lot of toads"? Finding true love takes a lot of practice and learning from a lot of others, it's not something that is effortless, anymore than finding the right career for you or right house, etc. will be.

All the time we're learning and it's hard to say what we'll need when we meet that "true" love. I didn't get married until I was 39 and it is my "soul mate" but when I look at all that came before that I needed to get to where I met this man, it boggles my mine. Imagine who you will be, what you will be like at 45. Write down what your life will be like and put it away somewhere and take it out when you're 45. You'll both laugh and cry, I guarantee it.

Become who you want to be. Don't worry too hard about the others around you other than learning to get along with them and make friends and how to be polite and friendly and "engaged" with them. If I hadn't been so anxious/afraid of other people and had gotten to where I am, sooner, I would have been different. But I didn't and there's no way I could have, I wouldn't be me if I were different :-)

If I could get one message to my 18 year old self it would be, "It will be okay!" I use that as a mantra today even but today I "know" it. It would have been nice to have had a friendly voice back then though but no computers/electronics yet back then

You'll feel better!

Hello juju,

Manhood comes later in life... I know you are hurt, I responded to your other post. There are going to be a number of other loves in your life; the important thing is to understand relationships so that you are not damaged into becoming a needy guy

Needy guys are avoided by most girls, unless the girls are needy too in that case the situation feeds on itself.

You don't need the type of girl either who is going to swap and change from one boy to another in rapid succession, that will only compound insecurity and confuse you more.

And as Perna said forget the smoling and drinking, that destroys relationships it doesn't build them; if you want some relief from confusion and anger try some meditation and breathing techniques,

Take care,

Rhiannon