[acrazynao]

so i opened up to my dh (or notsodh as its been lately) about several of the issues i/we've been having. i don't think it was a good idea. at first he was pretty numb and unresponsive, then for a week or so he started to talk a bit and even try and work on things, then last night i mentioned that it might be hard for me even with his trying because i was so far gone. i said i had thought about the d word and he shut down completely. we have both been diagnosed with bipolar within the last year (i'm still not sure how accurate the diagnoses are for either of us) he had been coming around to the idea of therapy, but i don't think its still an option after last nights talk. i get so frustrated because sometimes i don't see a future with him and sometimes i miss what we had so much.. but most of the time i am just so used to being the person i have been and thinking of him when i run errands or go to hang out with a friend i feel bad for leaving him at home alone. he's so much a part of my life, even if it feels like he drives me crazy.

[perpetuallysad]

It sounds like you are both going though a lot emotionally/mentally right now with dealing with your new diagnoses and you are having a hard time relating to each other while you are doing it. I also sense from your last sentence or so that you still do love him and want him as part of your life. Unless it's pure torture, try sticking it out a bit until you both become more comfortable with the other things in your life. Try to support each other the best you can (which I know must be hard when you are both dealing with a mental illness). Good luck.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

(((( (((( acrazynao )))) ))))

He could have shut down because he may have got a very nasty fright when you mentioned the d word? He may not have realised it had gone that far?

May be re-approach him by explaining what you just explained to us. That even though he is so much a part of your life, even when he drives you crazy, that you sometimes have to deal with the emotions generated by the bi-polar.

Those emotions will be up in the air and down in the mud dear ((((acrazynao)))) and if you can explain to him that it is the bi-polar causing your thoughts and emotions to be somewhat contrary to what you sometimes whish to say and put forward.

I really hope you are able to sort this out because as PS said, it is obvious you still love and care about your dh...please keep us updated so that we can continue to support you,

Rhiannon

[acrazynao]

Good ideas. Its had for me to accept the bp diagnosis. I've never had a manic episode and seem to have only lost control of my emotions since trying effexor then changing to lithium. I thouth the li was helping but I'm not sure anymore. My pdoc says that what I'm experiencing is normal and its me seeing my dh through sane eyes, but I feel more like I am going more crazy. My friends mostly say he's been like this always and I have put up with it for too long. Only one friend of both of ours says he wants us to work through this. He admits though I haven't been myself since dh retured from deployment.