i think im starting the im staying single club

So tired of being hurt emotionally abused forgotten about put on the back burner when I need them the most. If I'm going to be doing this alone then I don't want to have an indication someone will be there when they won't. If I have no expectations that anyone will be around and accept I will be doing this all alone just like I always do then I can't be hurt or disapoointed.

I ended it. I can't be forgotten within 5 minutes. I don't care if our minds think differently. Its not that different. I cannot settle for someone that can brush me off so easily. I cannot settle. I will bring my expectations as to not be disappointed so much but that's what I feel I can do. I may be emotional but it reminded me so much of my ex. So much uncaring. Keeping me at bay not doing anything he said he would. I'm not doing that anymore. Done getting hurt

((Bridgie)) - I think it's good you know what you want and you don't want to settle for less than you deserve. If a person isn't healed from their ex relationship, they often end up picking someone new who has very similar traits as their ex - because they're not healed. It's okay to be by yourself for a little while. This is actually an empowering moment for you - so don't feel bad.

I know many single women and like any other issue in life, there are pros and cons and ups and downs. The thing is that you never know what's around the corner in life. If there is no one special in your life that you can count on, it does make it lonely....but if you can make new friends, have new experiences and do what makes you happy...that's embracing life. I will hope happy things for you.

Said it was a slip of the mind notheing personal said he's not perfect and I'd have to accept that. I don't think its asking to much for a little consideration say hey I'm going to bar say hey I'm hanginh with friends say hey I've got busy day today. But don't just slip of the mind

I think I'd like to join this club. Do you have t-shirts?

I think it's important to take some time for yourself after a serious break up. If you go diving into another relationship right after you'll end up hurting yourself and possibly that other person. It's good to just be selfish sometimes I've resolved not to look for a relationship until I get a firm grasp of who I am. I've completely forgotten to be me during my last relationship because I spent so much damn time trying to make her happy, and last night I was just talking to an old friend and I realized I didn't even recognize who I was. I was saying and doing things I haven't said and done in about two years. It was almost scary.

So yay for being single! -high fives- It's a hard thought to get used to but it's better to be single than to be locked in an unhappy relationship.

Well it had been months since my last relationship. I thought I was doing well but over the past 10 years of relationships it was always the same. Forgetting me. No concern that I may think they died or something. So single I may be

My problem is I speak when I'm emotional and scare people with them. I need to throw away my old baggage and start fresh. I think I need to be single. I can't control my emotions enough to be with anyone. When I can control my feelings then perhaps I'll be ready. Its my problem will be my problem. Until I can figure them out I have no business being with others

Oh and t-shirts. Definitely we should have those. Yea!!!!

You make it sound like you're punishing yourself, as though you think your emotions make you unfit to be in a relationship. Try not to think of it like that. If you do you'll only perpetuate your bad feelings. try to find a positive reason to be single -- you can do what you want, you can spend time with whatever friends you want in any venue you choose. You can dress and act however you feel. And best of all you can get to know yourself. These are positives.

I get very emotional in relationships as well. When I'm facing a break up or I feel I'm starting to become rejected I become very unpredictable. I started telling myself I'm unfit to be in a relationship, that I just scare people off and make them feel as horrible as I feel. But what I realized is that I can't let myself think like that. Everyone faces hardships, but the key is not to let those hardships bring you down. Take your past experiences, take the pain you've felt, and put it in another light.

Sorry if this doesn't help. I'm just going with what I've been experiencing over the past few months. but I wish you the best of luck. You're worth feeling happy, whether you're single or in a relationship.

It is very sad to me because I am bipolar and I do overreact and question myself. I know what I want and how I should be treated that's why I ended the last one. He was soo bad to me. The new guy I know he wld treat me well except I do truly believe if you say you are going to do something that do it. and that's a trust issue I guess. I don't know. I'm lost I'm emotional maybe confused. I've had my family just yell at me about the whole deal. I'm begining to be ambivilant over the whole thing

((((bridgie))))

Are you reacting reasonably or are you kneejerking? Don't say you're going to be single only to meet the right guy in a few weeks and then dump the I'm staying single club members....think about it hon and then rather than feed the pain, heal it,

Hugs to you,

Rhiannon