i need friends!!!...

I dont have many friends, just my boyfriend, his best friend and girlfriend. I HATE IT!!! im not an outgoing person and i dont go to school or work so I cant really meet anybody there but im a person that has to have someone around me all the time, i hate being lonely....

can anyone give me advice or tips on how to meet random people and make new friends, and be more outgoing and socialable???

I've been signing up for activities on http://www.meetup.com/. There are a ton of things to get out and try and a great way to meet new people. Good luck!

Start a book club, go bike riding meet other bikers, friendly regulars at a coffee shop, book store, class you take for fun, museum. then just introduce yourself and start a little conversation see if they would like to meet again and do something.this is just a little you can do

I don't think you want random people, but those that have interests similar to you? What do you like? I have met people online in groups and then in person after I've gotten to know them online; do you belong to any groups online that have local, in-person chapters? I would go to the library and get various free advertisements and "magazines" there that say what's happening in your community, maybe I'd volunteer http://www.volunteermatch.org/ and see if I could meet someone there, take a course sponsored by the county rec center or community college continuing ed, etc.

In a couple months, do something like this with your baby? http://www.spudlings.com/

Hello disaster,

You will find that once you are able to drop your jealousy you won't be afraid to have other people around you. But while you are too jealous of other women around your bf to actually have any friends it won't work because every one you try to befriend you will be sizing up to see if she's interested in your boyfriend or to see if he's interested in her and it won't be friendly or pretty.

You will find that the people here at PC are friendly and we will be supportive of you and help you through things; though I know that isn't what you really mean by friends at least we will be here for you until you start to get your self esteem back and are ready to go to places like mothers clubs, coffee days and playgroups with your baby and make friends that way. It will open up for you you just need to be patient and you need to be open and trusting,

Rhiannon

I know how you feel. Except my boyfriend at the time didn't want me to have friends, so now I really dont. My good friend moved away, and all the people whom I thought were friends aren't!! I call them etc etc they never call back I just want someone to talk to. I feel soooo lonely, I have no job and I am on bedrest so i am stuck in four walls with my children all day. I dont know what to tell you, but be thankful you have a boyfriend who loves you

I believe I understand where you're coming from. I have days when I'm a social butterfly and days when I'm really good at blocking people out.

You stated, beautifuldisaster07, that you don't go to school or work. What challenges are you experiencing that make it difficult to do either?

How do you spend your time, and what are your hobbies?

Another poster mentioned Meetup.com; depending on where you live, there may be quite a few groups that will help you socialize in a comfortable setting. I've run a couple of groups from there, ranging from a social anxiety group to bipolar/depression support.

Again, depending on where you live, there may be events sponsored by social services agencies. For example, in the Phoenix area, quite a few non-profits that work with those receiving mental health services have such options like bowling, free movies, lunch get-togethers, bingo, etc.

There's also church social groups, library-sponsored events, or classes from your town's Parks and Recreation department. I find it helps to write down a list of my interests and use it as a guide as I search online and other places.

Otherwise, it depends on how comfortable you are with meeting "random people". It's a pretty good idea to be aware of your personal boundaries and comfort levels, but there are free online social networking groups (yes, technically dating sites, but you can look for friends too) -- including PlentyofFish and OkCupid, for example.

Best of luck in your endeavor to find new friends. Who knows, you may even find one or two on here that are local...

-K