verbally abusive relationship?

I am 17 weeks pregnant. My "boy-friend" kicked me out. He is very verbally abusive. I have lost 3 good paying jobs because of him coming in raising chaos. He trys to tell me what to wear, and how to raise m children (which aren't his). Oneday I went to the beach with a friend I hadn't seen in a year and he absolutely flipped. everyday he come homes, I am a B***, or a wh***, etc etc etc. Think of every name and I have been called it. I am worthless he wishes I'd die, blah blah blah. Well we got into a fight that day of the beach and he said get out! I said ok, grabbed my stuff and kids and was out in 5min flat. Next day my friends cam over and moved all of my stuff outta the house. Now I am 27 years old with 2 children and one on the way. I cannot work a job b/c i am on bed rest He keeps calling me everyday being nice, then a butt, nice, then mean. AHHHH!!! I dont want to be with him he says he loves me? I have yet to say anything derogatory to him. Well, tonight he needed a ride to cash his paycheck, I said ok. Well he sees this book in my car where I write when I feel a panic attack coming on and it just says alot of stuff like: Make it go away, God please help me I know I have sinned, When will I ever find real love? Well he saw the last one and lost it! Now all night he has been texting me pretending he meant the text to go to someone else and it says he is with a girl, or that girl he met tonight is hot, blah blah blag. I know he's just sitting there with a bottle of JACK DANIELS. He's constantly making feel like crap. HELP!!

Wow.... I'd leave him he sounds crazy and not like a someone who would make a good partner for life.

This is your life, not his, take control of it

Staying with him will only end badly. End it. You can get food stamps and some aide through the dept of health and human resources.

I would definitely get away from this guy - as in cutting off contact. He sounds like a very negative influence on your life.

Well Firstly ((((((((Mandvere))))))))

Congratulations on leaving him! That was the very best thing you could have done and that is only the start.

Do you need anyone like that in your life? Do your children? Do any of you deserve it?

Change your cell number, change your home number if you have one, and don't look back. The leaving is the most important part, and vowing not to go back and keeping that vow is the most important thing to you and your children.

If you can get a therapist and start talking you will be supported to sort your feelings out and choose the right path; keep posting here and we will do whatever we can to help you by supporting you and encouraging you on.

Yes, it is.

Do you know why you are still with him? Nothing you wrote sounded positive at all, from his hell-raising at your jobs to his kicking you out to the way he treats and talks to you. Are you still with him because you want your baby to have a Dad? Everything you wrote makes me think he will not be a good father.... I think you should make a list of the pros and cons of staying together and then see how they stack up. You've listed a bunch of "cons". Where are the pros? If there are none, get out.

Yeah, the only pros is that he has 2 other children and does take of them finacially, however to kinda think of it he never really sees them. Well one live 12 hours away but the other is only 45 min away and he never sees her, unless she comes into town for HS softball games. He teted me to like 3:50 am this morning trying to get a response outta me. Kept on pretending he was texting a friend about some girl and sending it to me. So childish, he's 38 yrs old. I've been ignoring him as best I can. What bothers me the most is that he condems me in front of other people when i am not around making me look like a loser and all of them love him. They have no idea, his family won't talk to me. God knows what he has said to them to make me look bad.

I have no friends to help me with this situation except for my daughters father. He's supporting me, and 1 friend I have outta town. I really have no one to talk to though. My mother condems me everyday saying ohmigod, you are gonna have another kid. I dont know how you are gonna do it. She says things to put me down everday and that is driving me bonkers to. She thinks that when he drives past our house to check up on me to see if i am home or when he calls late at night to see if i am home that its CUTE!! She says, "he must really love you" and I am like you are crazy no normal person would do that. It infuriates me. I tell her and she just stares at me like im crazy. I think shed rather me be in an abusive relationship then staying at her house, while my father is the total opposite. He's like he's trying to change you dont let him change you.

yeah when i was living there everyday when he came home id be wondering whats he gonna b*** at me about 2day 2 start a fight. It was very mentally exhausting

i am trying to take control, wish I had a button i could push for a self esteem booster.

I agree you should change your number and cut off communications and don't answer your phone when you know it is him. at night turn the thing off. you said you are on bedrest..that means rest! take control hon!