Hi everyone,

This is my first time posting about this because it seems so trivial, but I am afraid of kissing my boyfriend!

It is because I've had two bad kissing experiences in the past.

1.) When I was about 10, a boy pinned me down and kissed me, with tongue, and I really didn't want to!

2.) More recently, I practiced kissing a friend of mine, but she was the obvious leader. She also criticized everything I did wrong, and made me feel really bad about myself. :/

So now I'm afraid. Luckily, my bf is being very supportive, but I DO want to kiss him! I'm just afraid of doing it wrong, or awkwardly.

Does anyone have any advice?

[Belle1979]

I think that there is no "right" or "wrong" way of kissing... every kiss is different.

First kisses are always awkward LOL I remember bashing teeth.. but it gave us something laugh over and really that broke the ice xxx

Good Luck - the first kiss with your boyfriend will be amazing no matter how it turns out!

[Emotionally Dead]

It just comes natural. Trust me. At first, it's difficult no matter who it's with. It takes some time for the two of you to learn how each one kisses and how to move your lips, tongue, and all that good stuff lol. I was scared before my first kiss too and it turned out fine. Anyways it's not difficult and like the poster above said there isn't a right or wrong way, it just happens. Let him start off and just follow his lead and you'll be fine. You'll enjoy it so much you'll want to do it for hours, haha.

Just a thought. If you want to practice osculating, practice with your boyfriend.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Try just little pecks on the lips first....I hate tongue! slobbery yuckko!

[Yoshi]

Kissing is very complicated, everyone has different ways and styles.
I remmber kissing my boyfriend, and we were both shy, we super close face to face and neither of us made till five minutes later, and it was a little akward cause he kept staring into my eyes..and that scares me a bit, but we laughed about it afterwards XD.
Just go with the flow, you will be fine, kissing is very scary, but in the end its worth it :]

[Perna]

It's like any other behavior, you have to learn to do it. That means you have to get experience, do it, before you can get good at it. Sorry you had the two bad experiences, I wouldn't worry about your girlfriend and her criticisms, just be glad you aren't going to be kissing her with her negative/teacher attitude! :-)

[turquoisesea]

I was afraid of it too at first.

How about talking with the boyfriend, explaining that you're a bit nervous and opening the lines of communication? Or you can just jump in and try it. As others have said, there is no right or wrong, just different. You'll learn what feels best for you, and with your boyfriends help you can learn what's best for him.

I'm sorry about your bad experiences so far with kissing - know that it doesnt have to be that way, it'll be completely different in a relationship