Not sure what to do

I'm not sure what to do in this situation.

Earlier this year I found my former youth pastor's wife on Facebook and we became "friends". I recently figured out that she "unfriended" me. I think he had something to do with it because of my past relationship with him. I was very clingy and needy to him. Since I had "friended" his wife I had sent her maybe 3 messages and that was it. I think I sent one about the holiday's, one when I asked her to be my "friend" and one when my parents were in the same town where they live. When he was my youth pastor I put him through the wringer. I feel sorry for him. I had given his wife my email and told her to give it to him and I never heard from him. I was hurt and moved on. I have grown up a lot since high school and the last time he and I were in contact with each other.

I sent his wife a message on Facebook apologizing for anything I did wrong and telling them how much I have changed. He isn't on Facebook and I don't foresee him being on there anytime soon. He has left for Iraq for a year and I would hate for something to happen to him and for us to have this unresolved issue. "Brad" was my rock for awhile and I had such a crush on him but as most of you know I am deeply in like with Rex. I won't say love because I think love is a 2 way street.

Anyway what should I do? "Pamela" said she would pass the message on to him and see what he says but I don't know I still feel there is something else I can do. Suggestions?

Jan

I don't think you should do anything else ((Jan)). Maybe her husband discussed the over attachment with his wife and perhaps they felt this was the way to handle this. I know it feels hurtful but try not to let it bother you. When we apologize, the other person might not be ready or they might accept it but still need to keep some boundaries. You shouldn't feel worried about unfinished business or closure because you did what was necessary by apologizing.

Dear Dear Jbug

How sad for you to be in such a situation with someone you admire Thoughts are that he would have been forgiving him being a pastor

But you have done the right thing you have apologised for what ever happened and for the way things went You are a loving caring girl who has matured amazingly to a fine young woman who has a likeship with Rex and who knows where that may head?

Do not worry yourself dear Jan you have sent apology and opened your heart if he is a minister of his god then he should and will forgive you releasing his fear of the past and bringing things into the present His destiny is not in your hands and there is nothing you can do in that regard Whatever will be will be and we must accept it with dignity

Sending you many hugs and much love