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Old Oct 19, 2010, 10:05 AM
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I have been in a very dark place the last few days.

I know hub must have noticed, he said to a neighbour he was worried about me but he has continued to be the same heartless ***** he always is, expecting me to do everything as normal. He hasnt asked what's up or behaved any more nicely or considerate etc

Last night we sat in silence all eve - I felt like I had done something wrong but no idea what it was........

So I go shopping today and you know what I did? I bought him some gifts - little things like a nice sandwich for his lunch and some choccies I know he likes.

I said to him it was because he seemed a bit low just recently......he was really pleased.......

But I am a fool cos of course I was really overcompensating...........I am the one struggling BIG TIME, I would love a little gift from anyone but esp him, I want to be made to feel better...................

Why do I do this?

Apart from cos I am a fool..................
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Old Oct 19, 2010, 10:24 AM
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((Purplechick)) - it appears like you felt guilty and as you said, over compensating. Sounds like him not validating your feelings made you doubt yourself. It's nice what you did but it seems deep inside you did this for others reasons - since you said you wish it was you recieving something special. If I were you, at the right time - let him know you would like that kind of surprise when you're down. You shouldn't give him something to make up for your bad mood. Only give gifts out of love, not to compensate because he can't handle things. I hope you feel better soon and for now buys yourself some yummy chocolate
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