[Miss Laura]

What's with my Ex... he texted me last night out of the blue asking how I was. He then cause I never texted him back, texted my sister... whom said she texted him back saying she was fine.

Tonight he texted me back saying he missed me and loved me so much BLAH, BLAH, BLAH!! omg I can't believe he is doing this to me.

I said no as he was a bad inluence for a start not to mention his drug habit, his lack of social skills etc etc!!!

I am sitting thinking why now? Its been over a month since we split up. Why now??? He was wondering if I was out in town tonight???

Men are weird.... Relationships and I don't seem to go esp with the latest one. Oh well... Its just not meant to be

PS

Just writing to get it out of me

[Bluesummers]

This is just my opinion Laura, but he sounds a little bit desperate. Prehaps things have taken a bit of a downward turn in his life, and hes thinking about what hes lost. I personally, have had thoughts about ladies I used to go out with and wishing it was still going on. Just a speculative thought.

Although I'm male, I think before sexes can be weird sometimes. At least from what I can tell, lol. Try not to give up hope, you may yet find someone who suits you. They might even come along when your not expecting it. Or so I've been told.

Other than that, I hope you feel better soon.

[Belle1979]

It's hard when they come back into your 'world' like that.. finally you have moved past the attachement and there they are.. pulling the heart strings again.

I don't understand it, my ex did it 5 months after the break up.. and he left me... maybe it's just another case of the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence and they finally realise that what they had was actually worth something?? I have no idea!

[Miss Laura]

Thanks guys,

He has totally not understood why I can't take him back. I asked him why should I and he said he loved me.... whatever!!! If he loved me he would NOT have treated me like the way he did.

I felt bad for saying that to him but I am not a doormat and I will not be treated like one. He is playing mind games as usual

[ZaraLee]

Yes, men can play different games when they want something from women..

[valexand]

Oh I know how this story goes. I made the mistake and "listened" to all his "I miss you"s and I was stupid enough to let him back in my life.
Big mistake.

See, the first time you say to yourself.."ok I didn't know, I was in love, I made this mistake". But the second time it's like "you should've known better"!!! You have a much harder time forgiving yourself after a second round.

Men suck. And that's the bottom line.

[Miss Laura]

Same with guys who think they are "in love with you" and then get your hopes up and then decide to be dicks!!! I am sick of them...

Thankfully I have met a VERY nice man who loves me for me. He doesn't know about my bipolar. We know each other through a mutual friend. She has been trying to get us to date for years.

Had 1st date yesterday....... He knows how to treat a lady.... my Ex's are losers compared to him

[MissingMyOldSelf]

Laura, I HATED when my ex's would contact me after not seeing them for months, and those out of the blue, "Hey, how are ya, wanna meet up for a drink?" messages would irritate me to no end. I finally just deleted their numbers, and when I would actually forget their phone numbers and respond back with, "I'm sorry... who IS this?", it was as if I had the perfect closure, and the last word.

I'm glad your date went well!!! Keeping my fingers crossed that this guy is the one for ya!!!!

[Miss Laura]

Thank you MissingMyOldSelf,

The thing with my phone is once you have a number its permantely in your phone

I wish it would just be deleted. I deleted it but he is still in my phone

Anyways my new guy is fab!! So fingers crossed

Thank you!!

[Lilleth]

Men usually contact their exxs when they are at a loose end and just want someone to jump on. They rely on our emotional attachement to them and they take advantage when they have nothing or no one in their lives. And the worst ones are the ones that broke up with you and think that they can come back and mess with your head just because they know they broke up with you when you wanted to be with them. They will dump you the minute someone comes along that they fancy.

I know i sound cynical but these days its really hard to find a guy thats only interested in friendship. I am too scared to date. I feel lonely but cant go through the emotional trauma of it all again.

[Miss Laura]

Hey Lillete,

I no, its hard. I had an encounter with a guy online and he was in my head the bees knees. Then he hurt me. But then used emotional blackmail on me and I said I loved him. The 3 days later he broke up with me for good. Wat a ****. I have never thought men could b so horrible. He proved it. Glad I met someone else before he 'broke up' with me. The last laugh is on him. I was gonna break up with him. He got there 1st BUT.... I have someone who treats me a million times better than he ever did