Unsure what to do

I met this guy at a bar we agreed to be friends with benefits, neither one of us wants a relationship since we both just got out of one. So after we set down ground rules we started to hang out and drink with his friends, we all had a pretty good time. It was exciting and new so I kept seeing him but at his apt. He's an alcoholic but he works and pays his bills so it's not ruining his life too much. Plus he's always happy when he's drunk, but he has no memory of the night before. I was drinking alot at the time so it worked for us we never remembered the night before. I started hanging out with him more after I took a 3wk break from him.
I feel like he gets possessive, one night he told his friends she's is mine I'm not sharing her with anyone. I guess they pass girls around, I hung out with him recently outside of his apt. We were out with a girlfriend of his it was sun we went to watch football. He was drunk I went outside to get smokes I told them I'll be back a few mins later he texts me where am I really. We went to another bar met more of his friends he started talking about his ex, I think he's still in love with her. I got uncomfortable so I had my sister call me I told them I was going outside to take the call. So a few mins later he's looking for me and calls me I'm already back inside. IDK what to think about him anymore.
I stopped drinking since I started new meds, he hasn't called me in a while. We were texting but that stopped last wk, now that I don't drink I've been finding out more about myself I feel like I need him but I don't want to deal with him Idk what to do I'm so confused

Loki

This is a variant on your other posts and I think if you re-read those hon you will find the answers that we gave to you a couple of days ago. You're better off without this guy and spend time on yourself. You need a clean and sober man not someone with all the issues this guy has.

I know I need to be alone but I don't know what it is about this guy that confuses me so much but I can't tell him no. I can't let him go but I don't see a future with him either. I don't understand this feeling thats why I keep posting I just don't know I don't think its love or sex. It was a connection beyond that and I can't stop talking about him to my friends they are getting pretty tired of it. I don't know what to do or think anymore.

It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship by a long shot. The sooner you end this "friendship" the better off you will be (IMO).

Besides if you are spending much of your free time with him that is time you cannot use to meet nice people who can genuinely be your friends.

Hon "friends with benefits" is simply a title for sex with no ties and for a lack of self respect. Anyone I have ever known who has been down this road has, after the event fought terribly hard to hide this type of relationship from their subsequent partner/s.

He is not good for you and the excitement you are feeling for him is simply the excitement that was missing in your marriage before you broke up. Love yourself more than you love anyone else, and please don't mistake sexual excitement for love, there is a world of difference and one rarely ends well.

Take care of yourself hon, you deserve it and you decided on no dating for a very good reason, don't let that fall out of your consciousness it is really very important.

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