[doriangray1718]

ok, so let me go thru my entire day so far in list form to the point of my mom cracking on me. the reason why im writing it this way is because im still a little nervouse about my grammer. ok, here it goes

1. 9:30, i get out of bed, and on the way downstairs my sister ask me i want to go too F.Y.E with her to pick up a dvd. i tell her mabey.

2. im arguing with my mom about how too clean out the house because it desprately needs to be cleaned(downstairs and upstairs are the worst) she tells me she'll help clean when she has a day off,and then tells me why dont i start cleaning today.(this is a two person job, she's not here, and my sister is going to F.Y.E) so im just like whatever.

3. 12:30 pm- my aunt calls my cell phone asking if id like too help her clean her appartment a little bit, i tell her i,ll help. i go and tell sis that im not going to be able to go with her today.

4. i tell my mom, my mom ****ing flips on me.

5. she tells me how slefish i am for abanding my sister and that i dont care about anyone but myslef. and how the hell can i go over there and clean when this place needs to be cleaned. i tell her she's just F'en jealouse of my father's side of the family. and now she's holding a grudge against me.

i think my mom is the one who should try going on this site too seek help. so yeah, im pissed. who's at fault here?

[Kashia]

At first I clicked on your post because it fit....one of my sons just yelled at me "you are f.... crazy!" So, crazy is as crazy does. LOL! Guess if you have a mind, you , me and them at one time or another are going to be, or see...crazy.

Here are my thoughts on your crazy making situation:-)

Everyone living in a household and contributing to household mess are responsible to help with community chores.
Floor dirty? well you all walk on it. Dishes? wash them after you eat. Use the toilet..
keep it clean. Trash all over? get a trash bag, put on some music on, and pick it up.

At the minimum, clean and pick up what you dirty and do.

You leave out information like the health of your aunt? is she well, sick, disabled?
Is your Mom? Does your Mom work an outside job? Those things would make a difference who does what.

But I think the biggest lesson here is....we as humans do not live on our own little islands. We are all connected. And making a cleaner home or a cleaner world and everything else in between...takes a conscious awareness that if it doesn't get done, every person is responsible for the mess that is left.
The belief that "this mess ain't mine"....and "no one is helping me, so to hell with it..."
just doesn't fly.
Just one person has the power to make an incredible difference.
Believe that truth!
Hope I do not sound like I am lecturing, don't mean to come off like that.

We can not control what other people do or say, but we can control what we do or say, and you can be the change that others may follow.

Good luck! and I really like the quotes at end of your message, it fits my situation for sure, thanks.

Tell your Mom you just heard from a Mom, me, and I have received a lot of help and insights here..tell her I said...come on over!

[missbelle]

Yep,.. I'm a mom...and I know my kids would have gone ANYWHERE TO CLEAN except their own house...Its typical........but........Ya gotta clean up your own place first. Sorry about that......Glad you posted...........!!

[doriangray1718]

well, my aunt isnt really sick, she's actully healtheir then my mom(my mom weighs at least 50 pounds more then her). i guess i just deceided to go over to her house to clean because at least at her place there isnt constant argueing. like i mentioned, i thin the reason why my mom got so mad is because she's the aunt form my dad's side of the family. she never really liked her to begin with! so i think that's the hidden reason why. she told me it was because i flat left my sister(my sister is an 18 year old girl, she can go to a dvd store by herslef) and then she gave me that whole speach about ''one of these days your gonna need your sister, and she isnt going to be there''. i think that's a whole load of BS thouh. like i said, she just got mad because i went over to help clean her ex BF's sister's house insted of her's. but you guys are right, cleaning a house has to be everyone's job.

[lastyearisblank]

Trash all over? get a trash bag, put on some music on, and pick it up.

hehe... doriangray, you are lucky, this is clearly a thread with advice from some "nice moms...."

[Leed]

Jeez - I'd have been MAD too! Why in the heck can't you help clean YOUR house?? At least get started! I mean, come on -- YOU made some of the mess, right? You can clean it up!

You were going to "Auntie's" house who's mess you DIDN'T make, and were gonna clean THAT up!! Yes, that would tick me off big time!! Why is Mom crazy for getting upset about that?

Mom is probably just tired of fighting with everyone to get something done! Whenever she "asks" does she get a fight? Probably, right?

Why not clean your own home first and THEN help Auntie. Hugs, Lee