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#1
Oct 19, 2003, 05:12 PM
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right well i've not got much self-confidence and i'm rubbish at talking to girls unless i'm a bit drunk. My problem, even when i've overcome all that, is when to tell them about my mentalness? I know first date is a no no, but i never seem to find the right time - its not something you can just drop into a conversation is it? Also if i'm having a bad day, i feel silly saying "I can't come out because i'm scared of crowds today", so i end up lying.
Like i said, i'm rubbish with girls so any tips would be good! thanks! mildred |
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Oct 19, 2003, 07:29 PM
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i'm pretty up front about most of my issues. i figure i don't want to waste my time trying to befriend or date someone who can't accept me the way i am. i actually have turned down invitations to occasions by just saying "that's waaaay too many people for me."
i don't really make a point of laying out all of my problems--i just don't lie about them if they happen to come up. yeah it sucks if the person rejects me for it, but if they're that narrow-minded they were going to reject me eventually anyway so at least i didn't waste any more of my time on them. i don't think i've had anyone reject me just on the basis of my issues though--mostly my personality is enough to make them head for the hills.  |
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Oct 20, 2003, 09:31 AM
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You'd be surprised at how patient and understanding some girls can be of mental issues. Especially things that involve emotions. I'm scared being said by a guy is a very brave thing. It would make some girl's hearts flutter in a good way. Don't be afraid of your own emotions or expressing them. I think it's attractive to see men who are able to say how they feel. Some girls might make you feel silly, but are they the ones you want to date anyway?
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Oct 20, 2003, 09:43 AM
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thanks! its just like "huh is there NO area of my life this stupid thing doesn't affect? That is SO not fair!"
I suppose if you're a bit mental (like me) then you do need somebody supportive but they're really hard to find - especially at my age when its all pubs and clubs. Oh well... by the way, i'm not a man (well i wasn't the last time i checked) though i can understand why you thought i was! lol! I like pink and chocolate too much! Mildred |
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Oct 20, 2003, 09:46 AM
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well... i admit. I was a little confused. HEHE. Your nick is mildred, but you were saying girls are scarey. Sorry about my blunder
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Oct 20, 2003, 11:32 AM
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Now it makes sense. I got the impression you were a woman but then after this post I wasn't sure. Thanks for clearing it up :O)
Heidu The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it. John Ruskin
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#7
Oct 20, 2003, 08:14 PM
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Hi mildred and welcome.
Sweetie - girls aren't scarey until after you catch them! YIKES! <runs from Willow, Heather, and all the other women here ...lol> Just kidding - I just couldn't resist! The Devil made me do it and that's the story I'm sticking to. My thoughts are simple ... First, a no is a no, and if you never approach them it is a no. If you do walk up to one and she says no - then you have lost nothing. But if you don't approach her, and she would have said yes that is a no you brought on. And don't be shy. We only live once. Be smart and responsible, but, take the step. And enjoy it. As far as your illness goes - should it reflect who you are? I think not - it is just an illness like a cold or another sickness that disrupts peoples lives. If a person can't accept you for who you are - are they deserving of someone as special as you? And you are special. You may ask yourself how does this guy I've never met claim to know about yourself? Because in this whole world - there is only one you and that makes you unique. (((((mildred))))) Best wishes and it is so nice to meet you, Your friend Sam Anyone can say I love you, but actions speak louder than words.
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Oct 21, 2003, 09:22 AM
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I'm sorry I was confused in chat ... I was behind on reading the posts yesterday
 Take care! Fuzzy
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Oct 22, 2003, 03:59 PM
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Tis ok my freid i a alway behind like that...and it is the truth...may not beleive how much i post but it is true...
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