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Larfu · Mar 07, 2011, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Can't Stop Crying

My thought is be very careful and clear about setting up boundaries and expectations and be prepared if things don't turn out the way you plan. What happens between consenting adults is really no ones business. Sometimes though, we forget that sex is more than a physical act...emotions and vulnerability come into play here.
That's my 2 cents anyways...

And to the underage on this forum - if that is something you are also considering, please protect yourself - both physically and emotionally

Very well said. I could not agree more.

Mar 07, 2011, 04:31 PM

Hey Larfu, I like you too.

I also agree with Can'tStopCrying (which may be my favorite name on this forum btw)
it takes a certain kind of person and/or relationship to take emotion out of sex. If either party starts having romantic feelings which are not felt by the other, it becomes a big problem.

Larfu · Mar 08, 2011, 10:33 AM

You are all sweet, thank you.

Just to keep you posted, things are drifting away in that whole situation with benefits anyway. I was not worried about it to begin with, and I still have my heart open to whatever comes along. I tend to wear my emotions on my sleeve because I'm a strong man who is confident in who he is. Wow, am I really going third person on myself?

I hope to continue to entertain and inform, so thanks for reading!

danvb · Mar 09, 2011, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Larfu

/sigh

I was hoping we'd not go the way of misunderstanding, but alas, here we are. Instead of making things worse for you, I'll simply apologize for any offense I have caused. I wonder if you really grasp the whole conversation, but I'm not really interested in educating you. I assume you can read, or, in absence of being able to do that, ask appropriate questions to address any misconceptions.

Fundamentally, I agree with your point. But I'm also not retarded, and do what I need to do to assure that sex is fun, and not a creative act. It's not something I take lightly. You don't know me, my situation, or anything resembling context. Don't assume that you do, not for my sake (because I know I'm right about my own life), but for yours. Please don't make yourself look rude or foolish at my expense. I offer you my friendship as someone who probably has a few things in common with you. I hope you take it, as I am a very good friend.

Thanks, respectfully,

Eric

Eric,

You shared your thoughts with the rest of the people on this forum. IceCreamKid responded to your post in a way that was true to her/his way of thinking. I find it rather troubling that instead of thanking her/him for bothering to share their point of view with you and letting it go at that, you chose to denigrate her/him simply because you didn't like their response. If you are seeking only the responses that appeal to your own values and beliefs, perhaps you should warn others beforehand of your particular proclivities.

Dan

Larfu · Mar 09, 2011, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by danvb

Eric,

You shared your thoughts with the rest of the people on this forum. IceCreamKid responded to your post in a way that was true to her/his way of thinking. I find it rather troubling that instead of thanking her/him for bothering to share their point of view with you and letting it go at that, you chose to denigrate her/him simply because you didn't like their response. If you are seeking only the responses that appeal to your own values and beliefs, perhaps you should warn others beforehand of your particular proclivities.

Dan

Oh wow, not my intent at all. Sound like more misunderstanding, because I wish no ill of anyone here. No need to rally to the defense of someone not complaining. Hopefully.

danvb · Mar 09, 2011, 04:42 PM

Eric,

Yeah... intents are kinda funny that way... No one can really know them but the person that puts them out for others to interpret...

I'm defending no one... and it didn't even occur to me that you wished ill of anyone here. I'm simply stating my own biased opinion... Take it or leave it, I'm ok either way...

Alrighty?

Dan

Larfu · Mar 09, 2011, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by danvb

Eric,

Yeah... intents are kinda funny that way... No one can really know them but the person that puts them out for others to interpret...

I'm defending no one... and it didn't even occur to me that you wished ill of anyone here. I'm simply stating my own biased opinion... Take it or leave it, I'm ok either way...

Alrighty?

Dan

Sounds good.

sadeyes9519 · Mar 12, 2011, 04:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Larfu

Thanks all. Yeah, I'm just scared about going into a new relationship of any kind.

Anyone out there who has done the friends with benefits thing? Movies say it ends badly, but what about in reality?

Hello Larfu,
Yes I have had (2) separate friends with benefit relationships. Neither ended well. I personally would not recommend it. It is doubtful that both people are going to view the physical aspect of the relationship in the same way. Chances are very good that one person (most likely the female) will develop strong feelings and end up wanting more from the relationship. Listen to your internal voice, it sounds like you are picking up on signals that this might not be the right time for you to be dating.

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