I hate feelintg like people dont like me :(

The guy from our local lions club stopped by with a paper for my best friend who I live with. He told me that the club sometimes does grocery money for people, and i requested to apply, he said that was fine, so I invited him to stand inside rather than out. He went no further than three feet past our door. The only room he could see was kitchen with the dishes i had not done in days. Anyways, to my point.

He seemed super nice, friendly, i explained id been sick for two weeks off and on, had kidney stons or whatever.

He leaves, and about two hours later i get a facebook message from my best friend who is away for a week saying:

Hey i just had someone call me and tell me that the house was a huge mess.....i dont deal with mess well as you know ....i will be home sunday or monday so please if it is a mess clean it up.
I just dont wanna come home to it i have had a very bad week and i dont wanna top it off by cleaning something that i did not do.
Thanks and i will see you soon
-Punkie-



I was like WHAAAAAAAAA???? What the heck? I mean, the house is definetly not perfect but I did everything yesterday and i mean everything even dusting, except for the dishes because I ended up having to go to the hospital. I guess this man called punkies cousin and asked to spea to her MOM(punkies aunt) and said the house was a huge mess. WTH?

I have several huge issues with this.
A- Hes supposed to be from a community group aimed at helping low income, (the lions club) and he was also representing the Salvation Army by bringing the home heating help forms out. That is NOT appropriate behavior.
B - The house is really NOT a huge mess! Just dishes left to do that is all.

C - To go behind my backk like that is very sneaky and unprofessional, and just plain unkind! Why did he not say something too me? And he knew because we tlked about how I have physical issues/disabilities and I am sick on top of it. Yet he did that.

I feel like I should report him to the club because that could have caused a huge fight between my roomie and I was she anyone else. Fortunately we are close and can get past little things like this.

I just dont get why he would want too hurt me like that when hed never even met me, knew I am somewhat disabled, and also sick. I feel like crying

wow... that is crazy. its almost as if someone told him to go to your house to see what the condition of it was. that is really unprofessional and I agree with you on that. i would understand your roommates concern if it really had been a huge mess because you were lazy, but any decent person would understand a little mess here or there is because you are sick and have been in and out of the hospital. for someone else to tell her that the house is a huge mess, who knows what she might think the house looks like now. i also think that in the email she could have asked in a better way that the house be taken care of so that she can relax when she gets home. sounds like shes already mad but she hasnt even seen the exact condition. that is so unfair for you. im sorry you are going through this right now. it seems like if you two really were close roommates, she would have called and asked you how the house was instead of getting someone to sneak in there to find out.

It wasnt her that got the guy to come - he was actually supposed to come last week I think but never made it.
I think she came across more cranky than she actually is, she wasnt mean about it at all(plus she is with her husband who she seperated from right now, and i dont think they are having a very good time, so she may be a little upset) and we were laughing it off shortly after. I already know that shes not the most warm and fuzzy person in the world so her reaction didnt bother me I get how it might look like she was being snide, but i promise she is not at all.

I told her flat out that the house is almosst spotless, the only thing not done is there is three loads of dishes easily out in the kitchen,and thats what he would have seen standing at the door - so thats my suspect right there. She was very thankful and apologized

Oh ps, she cant call me, because she doesnt have long distance where she is right now.

So sorry. (((Mandiepoo))) My house is often a mess--and I don't just mean the dishes. I don't understand the guy either, unless he's a clean freak. I'm not sure he was saying that he didn't like you, but rather that he didn't like the mess.