How do I stop having feelings for someone?

I think I fall in love easily. I like someone but he doesn't love anyone. Does anyone know how I can stop liking someone? I might not talk to him as much because he doesn't need me. He has his other "best friends" to talk to.

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I must say that if I knew how I would be a lot happier :P lol But if you feel like it's wasting your time and you may not even get a friend out of it all you should just keep your distance from him. For me time and space always work the best =) Good luck

the only thing that can help is time! seriously.

wait it out. if it's true love then it'll work, if not, you'll realise sooner rather than later.

if you dont feel like he deserves / needs you then perhaps it's best to walk away

Thanks everyone for replying

As much as you probably do not want to hear this (because I know I did not ).. You probably are not falling in love, but are becoming infatuated with people. Love takes time and takes getting to know a person. I have the same problem with "falling" for guys very very fast and feeling like I cannot be without them. But now I know that it is indeed infatuation and not love. Infatuation is defined as an " all-absorbing passion"...you have consumed yourself with this person and they are not participating in being overly passionate about you... I know with me, I want to be with someone so badly that I will become infatuated and convince myself that I love everything about this person.. It is just me being foolish tho.. Hope this helps

What is love? Joliette tells us what infatuation is and I believe her. But, what is love? It can't be just taking the time to get know someone. What does it feel like? I know I've been in relationships where I guess I thought I was in love. But, clearly that was not true - the love part. So can anyone help me out here? I know there is my love for humanity and all of its failings. But what is it like to love in a way this thread is discussing? How do you know? When do you know? Is there a special point where it begins? If it is love then is it possible for it to end?

Love is an enduring bond which out lasts difficulties,poverty,age.Love is desiring the the best for another,despite your personal agenda.Love is a strength of emotion from within which is felt deeply enough to allow for jealousy,suspicion,fear,contention,mistakes,imperfections,bad days.A strong desire to bring peace,joy,contentment,and support to another.Love is the desire to soothe,share with,or uplift,a fellow person.Essentially...at its base....love is unselfish regard for another.

Any combination of the above.

In love...I guess that is different for each 'coupling' of minds.There can be admiration,physical attraction,similarity,comfort,need,desire,endurance of tenderness,sacrifice,humor,intensity,chemical attraction,....on and on.That all depends on the psyche of the two individuals.These aforementioned...along with other factors...give or take something here or there......are just guesses according to Wolf.

I was never so heady as to assume I understood other humans...and what drives them...but this is a tour through my personal ...'spirits' collection of thoughts.

Can it end if it had once begun?Yes.Lines can be crossed in such a fashion that there is no 'rekindle ability.Something just dies.

Love in its most perfect state is best exampled by the love that a parent has for their child.(Not all humans are capable of a healthy love for their children even...I have seen).But...the enduring...'I want whats going to make your existence whole and healthy' mind set...with some level of sacrifice of one being 'first-priority'.....jmo

Healthy love...attempts to give w/o sacrificing ones sense of self .....and attempts to take w/o sacrificing the others sense of self......not always possible.

Unfortunately many people mistake 'infatuated' with in-love....and obsession...for 'in-love'.

~W~

ok. Thank you Wolf.

You said:

"A strong desire to bring peace,joy,contentment,and support to another.Love is the desire to soothe,share with,or uplift,a fellow person.Essentially...at its base....love is unselfish regard for another."

I think this best states my feelings on the topic - I accept this as my official definition.

Thank you again Wolf.

Yousa silee Sir Gilead

Good relationships with other people is what keeps them going; if there is no caring relationship on his part, then the rest is in your "head" and you need to focus your thinking and personal efforts on other things. It doesn't happen immediately, we need time to decide on something/someone else we want to focus on and do the work of shifting our emotional effort.

I will let this go in a moment, and thank you Wolf for indulging me here.

"Love in its most perfect state is best exampled by the love that a parent has for their child.(Not all humans are capable of a healthy love for their children even...I have seen).But...the enduring...'I want whats going to make your existence whole and healthy' mind set...with some level of sacrifice of one being 'first-priority'.....jmo"

You added this to your post (or I replied while you were in the middle who knows). I know the parent child love well and it has made a world of difference in my life - I don't know where I'd be without that.

"Healthy love...attempts to give w/o sacrificing ones sense of self .....and attempts to take w/o sacrificing the others sense of self......not always possible."

This is the crux of my issue with love. It is the hardest for me to achieve - I admit I do tend to lose myself and as I write this I recognize that it may have been the deathblow to all of my failed relationships.

Love to me now doesn't have to mean forever - it can last as long as the other person needs to receive it. As long as I don't lose myself again, I'm a happy camper.

I have to add Wolf - you are truly amazing - here I was expecting cliche and claptrap (I think it works here) and I get a deep philosphical approach that made me see myself in many different ways. Thank you yet again.

You're welcome.

I understand sooo much about the implications of your statement in reference to your children.I have gained so much from my childrens arrival to this point,and continue to 'score' on behalf of knowing them.My youngest is such a loving ,strong,unconditional friend.I am better for knowing him.

I hope you never again lose who you are to sustain who 'two' are.Love should compliment the good qualities of individuals,and lead by inspiration the spark of desire to evolve into a better person,without pressure.

I'm really going to leave this now. "...evolve into a better person, without pressure." To evolve requires the belief in the concept of change - the essence of life is change. Each breath we take is change, all around us everything is in a constant state of change. And yet we oftentimes forget that in order to live we must change. This forms my belief in nothing being forever - each moment is its own forever...

My apologies to everyone I did not intend to "hijack" this thread. It was the talk of love that threw me off course - and my confusion regarding the topic....

Change is scary ...yet...evolution of a soul is involuntary...or,rather.....at least...the fluctuation of a soul.Some really fail to evolve.Rather they are like rubber band balls...simply collecting small layers of the same stuff as they grow larger.Can tell I took a nap.My mum..."Mood swing Treesa!" yeah yeah Mum.....