Should I suspect my boyfriend of cheating?

I'm a bit perplexed and upset after just recently finding out that one of my boyfriends close friends who is married with two young kids has a girlfriend on the side (he himself revealed this to, he said he thought I knew). In my experience, the company one keeps is very telling of ones nature. Plus even though my boyfriend always says how much he loves me, he has revealed that before me, he was never serious about any girl/woman before. So now, I'm sorta worried- he sounded like a a bit of a playboy before- and I know the old saying, "once a player, always a player." Am I right to be suspicious? Any thoughts on this matter, especially from guys, would be helpful. Thanks.

While I understand your concerns, those things aren't necessarily true. My friend J has cheated on almost every guy she has ever dated. But I would never cheat on my bf. My bf was a little weary of it at first but, I told him everything she did so, if I didn't want him to suspect anything....why would I have been honest about her? Does that make sense? If he was really doing something, I think he would try to steer clear of any talk involving cheating or anything. Simply because people do think like that - the people you keep.....etc...I think he would hide it if he was doing something.

Also, do you think he would have been so open about past cheating if he was doing the same to you? Sounds like he was saying those things to try and say "look, I have done this in the past and have never been serious with a girl because I want you to know how special you are to me that I am being open with you".

That's my take on it. Has he ever done anything else to make you suspicious? Also, what does you gut tell you. For whatever reason, I can find something that obviously belongs to a girl in my bf's things but I know there is an explanation bc I know, in my gut, that he would never cheat on me.

How long have you two been dating? Have you had an open conversation with him about these feelings? His response to these feelings of yours could also be a good indicator. Not accusative but just "this is how I'm feeling right now..."

Keep us updated.

In my view, what someone else has done is irrelevant. Your friend says he is serious about the relationship with you. If you believe "once a player, always a player" is reason to believe he is cheating, why have you remained with him once he disclosed his past?

Since you have no proof of his cheating, I don't think you have anything to worry about. And the fact that he revealed his past to you seems to me like he is very open and honest. I would NOT distrust him. Erase those thoughts from your mind and enjoy the good relationship that you have -- or else you're doomed to ruin it. God bless. Hugs, Lee

"Once a player always a player" and "birds of a feather flock together" has been proven to me several times. Players usually become tame when they can't "perform" as well as they used to and now they are looking for someone to take care of them. Actions speak louder than words so watch carefully how he treats you. I won't even give a man second chance if he even ogles another woman in front of me.....that is usually a good indication of a player. Players = Pain so stay away from them and don't waste the pretty. Good luck in your decision.