Driving me crazy

I am in a 10 yr. same sex relationship and I am just about at my wits end.
My partner is such a narcisist! She is convinced that she is "all that". She looks at herself in the mirror and tells herself that she loves her, she takes pictures of herself by the hundreds, and makes videos of herself talking to herself and makes me watch them.
I don't know where else to turn. I have talked to her about it, but to no avail. She doesn't get why I don't do the same to that I can "find" myself like she has and love myself like she does. I don't think so. All seems really weird to me.
What do I do??? Please help!

I think you quit watching the videos/pictures, she cannot "make" you watch them, especially if you leave when her behavior gets too over the top. Maybe you set up a couple's counseling session and "make" her go with you to get another person's take on her behavior.

When/how did all this start? It sounds to me like she does not believe herself, has not "found" herself or she would not need to prove it so much? You have to be comfortable and enjoy the relationship or you cannot stay in it? If she won't see reason, you might have to make that choice.

I agree with Perna ~ it sounds to me like she is very very insecure to me. If she has to keep reassuring herself that she "loves" herself, and keep primping, etc., then she definitely doesn't feel secure. If she really felt that she was "all that" she wouldn't keep telling you.

If she won't go into counseling with you, then like Perna said, you're going to have to make some decisions. Can you continue to live like this? Since this is 'driving you crazy' you will probably have to make other living arrangements.

I hope things work out the way you want them to. God bless. Hugs, Lee

It does sound like she's continually trying to convince herself that she loves herself.....& she's constantly trying to get you to validate what she is telling herself. If she really had those feelings, she wouldn't need to constantly be going through the same behavior.

Yes, we need to be secure with ourselves before we can truly have good relationships with others....but life isn't all about loving ourselves.....it's about loving others as we love ourselves.

There is no relationship that we need to be trapped in. Sounds like if she's really driving you crazy, you need to re-evaluate your living situation. Not sure how long her behavior has been going on? But it sounds like you need to be a bit more aware of people's personalities before getting involved with them let alone committing to living conditions. (something that's important whether same sex or not)

Hope you can work out your situation in your best interest.

This may sound harsh, but...leave her. She has no room for you in her life.

Hugs,I hope you make a decision which brings you some peace....WO.olf

oh my god why would u be with someone like this ?

WOW... We learn something new every day but yet we forget why we are here.... This is the message of Love.... If you don't like the person whom you are with then my advice to you is move on or choose to change the aspects of yourselfs in order to flow more easily in your relationship and your spouce to do the same this way the both of you can live more in a flowing mediumship with one another. Just a message from someone who cares. Warm Regards of Love... F.